To my dear daughter on your eighteenth birthday (which feels like eons away):
Hey there, sweetheart. It’s your mom, the one who once adored you but might now seem like the ultimate annoyance in your teenage life. If you’re anything like I was back in the day, you probably aren’t eager to hear my advice right now, let alone acknowledge my existence.
With me hitting menopause as you dive deep into the chaos of your teenage years, we might be in for a wild ride. So, I figured I should jot down some thoughts for you now, before we enter that inevitable communication blackout. But hey, if we’re the best of friends by then, I’ll happily share these insights over ice cream and hand you this letter as a keepsake.
Before you venture out into the world on your own (and I find myself locked in the bathroom, crying into a glass of wine), here are a few nuggets of wisdom to consider during your early adulthood:
- Embrace the Night Out: It’s okay to indulge occasionally. Some of my fondest memories are those nights spent laughing with friends over a few too many drinks. Just remember: avoid walking home alone, never drive under the influence, and think twice before getting cozy with someone just because they’re cute. It’s not worth waking up with regrets — or worse.
- Cherish Friendships: Build strong connections in your twenties. These carefree times of late-night hangouts and spontaneous adventures are fleeting. Sure, you can bond over parenting later, but nothing quite matches the experience of sharing a laugh with friends in a less responsible setting.
- Career Choices Matter: While it’s essential to pursue what you love, think pragmatically. If you desire a family one day, consider careers that offer flexibility. Jobs like investment banking or surgery might be impressive, but they can demand a lot of your time. You want to be able to prioritize family without feeling torn apart.
- Dating Lessons: No matter who you date — guys or girls — prepare to encounter some duds. Heartbreak is a part of life, but each experience will teach you what you truly want in a partner. Trust me, when those changes come, you want someone who sees your beauty inside and out, even when life gets messy.
- Open Communication: Even if we’re not on speaking terms at the moment, remember that I’m always here for you. You can confide in me about anything — I’ve likely been there, done that. I might have my moments of frustration, but my support is unwavering (with a drink in hand if you’re of age, or some chocolate if you’re not).
With love always,
Mom (or whatever you decide to call me now)