Pregnancy is typically a nine-month journey filled with planning, anticipation, and cravings for late-night snacks. However, when my daughter, Mia, arrived at just 24 weeks gestation, weighing a mere 1 pound and 10 ounces, I quickly learned that the journey was about to take an unexpected turn. Suddenly, I found myself unprepared and unsure of what to expect with a premature baby.
1. Limited Skin-to-Skin Contact
After giving birth, you may not immediately hold your baby. The joy of pregnancy culminates in a new baby, but with a preemie, that cherished “new baby” smell is kept behind the glass of an isolette. In an instant, Mia was taken to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) while I was left in my recovery room without her.
2. Breast Pumping Initiation
About three hours post-delivery, a nurse or lactation consultant will likely wake you with a breast pump. In a daze, you’ll find yourself being instructed on how to use it. The NICU offers pumping stations, and if you’re committed to breastfeeding, consider investing in a hospital-grade pump.
3. Formula Feeding is Okay
Don’t feel guilty if you opt to formula feed. Prioritize what’s best for you and your baby, and feel free to discuss your feelings openly with the NICU staff—they are incredibly supportive and compassionate.
4. Navigating the NICU
The NICU can be intimidating. Mia looked so fragile, surrounded by wires and monitors, and I was instructed on how to touch her gently. I often wondered if she was crying silently, too weak to make a sound.
5. Jealousy of Other Moms
You may find yourself envious of moms in the postpartum wing. Hearing other babies cry or seeing mothers with their newborns will likely stir feelings of longing.
6. Become a Medical Expert
To advocate for your baby, you’ll need to familiarize yourself with medical jargon. Ask questions and resist the temptation to consult Dr. Google; the NICU staff is there to help.
7. Speak Up About Concerns
If you notice changes in your baby’s behavior, don’t hesitate to ask questions about feeding schedules or tests done. Understanding your baby’s care is important.
8. Embrace the Noise
The NICU is often loud, filled with the sounds of alarms and monitors. While it can be overwhelming, the noise is a normal part of the environment that can also provide comfort to the babies.
9. Mind the NICU Schedule
Familiarize yourself with the NICU’s routine, including shift changes, and know who is caring for your baby. Keeping a list of NICU contacts can be helpful for updates when you’re away.
10. Strict Hygiene Protocols
Hospital soap and hand sanitizer will become your new fragrance. Be prepared for chapped hands, but know these measures are in place to protect your baby.
11. The Importance of Touch
Your touch is vital for your baby’s development. Preemies respond well to firm touches and kangaroo care, which fosters bonding. Don’t feel discouraged if your baby can’t handle being held for long.
12. Ongoing Medical Follow-ups
Prepare for numerous specialist appointments after leaving the NICU. You’ll likely visit various doctors, including the ophthalmologist, who checks the optic nerve in a way that can be quite startling.
13. Trust the Medical Team
It’s crucial to trust the NICU staff while your baby is there. They are dedicated to your little one’s care. In the meantime, focus on your well-being by resting and preparing for your baby’s arrival home.
14. Bright Days Ahead
The NICU stay can feel endless, but after 94 days, I finally took Mia home. Today, she is a lively toddler, constantly keeping me on my toes with her antics.
15. Welcoming Visitors After Discharge
Once you’re home, be cautious with visitors. The NICU staff will advise against anyone who is sick and emphasize the importance of hygiene. Use your judgment when introducing your baby to the outside world.
For those interested in expanding their family through alternative methods, consider exploring options like this at-home insemination kit. For a deeper understanding of postpartum intimacy, check out this resource on new moms and intimacy. For additional information on pregnancy, visit the World Health Organization’s page on pregnancy.
In summary, navigating the challenges of having a premature baby can be overwhelming, but with the right knowledge and support, you can manage the experience effectively. Embrace the journey, trust your medical team, and cherish every moment with your little one.