Dear Emily,
I hope this message reaches you well after your first night in the dorm. Your text reassured me that you’ve made it through the initial day on your own.
I must admit, I had my doubts about leaving you there, especially after I returned home to find your takeout container from last night sitting on the table. Anyone who has lived with you knows that you have a knack for leaving traces of yourself wherever you go. I’ll tackle your room in a few days, armed with gloves and possibly a hazmat suit.
My first piece of advice: Keep your space tidy, and remember to flush—your sisters insisted I include that last bit.
Eighteen years felt like a lifetime until I held you for the first time. Those years flew by faster than I ever imagined. I’ve realized that the more you cling to moments, the more quickly they slip away. While I hoped to teach you everything you needed to know, the lines blurred along the way. Now, I’m not sure who taught whom. Those years certainly taught me how to let go. It’s tough, but every mama bird must eventually nudge her chick out of the nest. I have complete faith that you won’t just fly; you’ll soar.
You transformed me into a mother—not the same mother I was back then, as I’ve learned and grown through my experiences (and mistakes) with you. As my firstborn, you were my trial run. Looking back, I see all the lessons learned, and I hope I didn’t mess you up too much.
I always knew you would thrive when you ventured out on your own. Among your siblings, you were the unique one—stubborn and full of personality. Remember when you used to hum the cleanup song while strategically moving toys around at preschool? Your teachers were amused by your “creative” approach, while your classmates picked up the slack. It was equal parts mortifying and impressive—until you started employing the same tactics at home.
Now that you’re on your own, make sure you do your part—whether at home, in class, or at work. Sometimes, you’ll need to go beyond what’s expected. Embrace the challenge, roll up your sleeves, and approach it all with a smile. Your efforts will be noticed and appreciated.
You were always the big fish in your preschool pond—loud, opinionated, and ready to lead. You didn’t hesitate to correct your teachers. I’ll never forget the day your kindergarten teacher told me, “This one is going to be the mayor.” I was torn between pride and concern.
Now that you’re in college, your professors may not find your confidence so charming. And take heed—don’t annoy your roommate; she holds the key to your daily happiness.
Your natural charisma draws people to you, but be mindful not to let it morph into arrogance. You have talents, yet everyone has something valuable to offer. Some people shine from within, so take the time to notice their gifts.
Beware of the infamous “Freshman 15”—stay active! It’s all too easy to adopt a sedentary lifestyle. Remember, there’s a world beyond Facebook and TikTok. Your father and I know sports weren’t your forte. We watched you untie your shoelaces right in the middle of the soccer field while the ball sailed past you. Once you discovered that trick, running after the ball became a thing of the past. But now, there’s a beautiful campus waiting for you to explore.
Peer pressure has never seemed to faze you. I vividly recall how, during the DARE program, you regarded adults who drank with disbelief. I take comfort in knowing that it will be a while before alcohol even crosses your mind. Just keep Officer Bellino’s wisdom close to your heart, but don’t forget to enjoy college life. You have four years (hopefully) to dance on tables and, yes, indulge in a drink or two once you reach the legal age.
You’ve always stayed true to yourself—whether it was wearing paperclips to honor the Holocaust, dyeing your hair purple for fun, or speaking your mind regardless of the pushback. Never let anyone dim that fire within you.
Focus on your studies! Submit your work on time, keep communication open with your professors, and always strive for excellence. You may not always see eye to eye with them, but remember—they deserve your respect.
Lastly, smile! Learn to laugh at yourself and relish every moment of the next four years. You have immense potential, and I’m certain you will accomplish incredible things.
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Take care,
Mom