When my little one came into the world, I faced a whirlwind of parenting choices. Some were lighthearted, like whether to dress him in a bunny or a rainbow outfit for his first ride home. Others were much more significant, such as figuring out what to do when he lost a bit too much weight in his first week. Yet, the toughest decision over the past two years has revolved around managing my anxiety.
Years before I got pregnant, at 29, I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) while undergoing treatment for alcohol use disorder. My first therapy session opened my eyes; my therapist pointed out that I’d been using alcohol to cope, and that’s when I learned I had GAD. Reflecting on my childhood, I realize I had lived with anxiety for as long as I could remember, but in my Latino family, mental health was hardly ever discussed. It wasn’t until my anxiety started to control my life that I sought help. I’m grateful I did, especially since research indicates that only about 34% of the Latinx community with mental health issues seek professional help, compared to the national average of 45%.
Once I got sober and began regular therapy, I noticed a significant improvement. I learned various coping strategies: lighting my favorite candle, sipping citrus lavender tea, journaling, coloring, cooking, enjoying a good book, and cuddling with my pets all became my go-to methods for managing stress.
Then came the moment I learned I was pregnant. Unfortunately, I faced a pregnancy loss soon after. It was a tough period, and it brought my anxiety back to the forefront. I realized that if I wanted to be the best parent I could be, I needed to address my mental health more proactively. So, on the day my son was born, I made the decision to start medication to help manage my anxiety. It was a choice that felt right, one that I believe has made me a more present and engaged parent.
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Summary
Becoming a parent is filled with decisions, and for me, choosing to start anxiety medication on the day my son was born was one of the most crucial ones. It’s vital to prioritize mental health, especially in the face of challenges like pregnancy loss. Seeking help led to better coping strategies and ultimately made me a more engaged parent.