As a lactation consultant, I began my journey as a mother, navigating the complexities of breastfeeding without fully understanding the role of a lactation consultant. Initially, I was unaware of the societal pressures surrounding breastfeeding and formula feeding. My sole desire was to breastfeed my child, which proved to be quite challenging. My baby refused to latch, turning away in disinterest as if I were offering something unappealing. This left me feeling defeated and disconnected from both my body and my newborn.
The morning after my child’s birth, a wonderful group of doulas visited to support me. They skillfully assisted me in latching my baby, combining empathy with practical knowledge. They stayed until I could manage on my own, although it took weeks before breastfeeding became second nature for us. When I inquired if they were lactation consultants, they humorously replied, “No, you need around 2,000 hours of experience for that.”
They were correct. To become a lactation consultant, I had to accumulate 2,000 hours of direct contact with breastfeeding mothers, complete extensive coursework in the sciences, and undergo specialized training in lactation. Just like my determination to breastfeed, I felt a strong calling to this profession.
However, as I’ve continued in this field—and particularly with the rise of online communities—I’ve noticed that not every mother’s experience with breastfeeding support has been as positive as mine. Some mothers have reported feeling pressured to breastfeed by their consultants, and many have felt unheard or shamed when they chose to stop breastfeeding.
While there are certainly individuals in any profession who may lack compassion, these cases are exceptions rather than the norm among lactation consultants. It’s crucial to understand that not everyone offering breastfeeding support is a certified lactation consultant. The field includes a range of supporters, from volunteers to lactation counselors, with only those who hold the “IBCLC” designation having completed the rigorous training and experience required.
Here are seven key insights about lactation consultants that may surprise you:
- We Don’t Oppose Formula: While we advocate for the benefits of breastmilk, we recognize that formula can be a necessary alternative for mothers who cannot produce enough milk or access donated breastmilk. When I see a baby in need, my priority is ensuring they are fed, regardless of the source.
- Understanding Milk Production Issues: We are acutely aware that not all mothers can produce sufficient milk. We understand the complexities of lactation and do not judge mothers who face challenges. Our goal is to support them in maximizing their milk supply if they wish to do so.
- We Care Deeply: It may sound cliché, but we genuinely care about the mothers we assist. Their challenges weigh on us, and we celebrate their successes as if they were our own.
- No Judgment on Personal Choices: We understand that various personal circumstances may lead mothers to choose not to breastfeed. Whether due to past trauma, medication incompatibility, or simply personal preference, we respect each mother’s decision without question.
- Empowering Informed Choices: Many mothers stop breastfeeding due to a lack of information. We strive to provide tailored guidance that empowers mothers to make informed decisions about feeding their babies.
- Comfort with the Process: We’ve seen it all—breasts, babies, and the various challenges that arise during breastfeeding. While we’re comfortable in our role, we respect the preferences of mothers who may wish to maintain modesty.
- Supporting Individual Goals: Whether a mother wants to exclusively breastfeed or introduce formula, we support her in achieving her personal goals. It’s about her body, her baby, and her choices.
Many lactation consultants, including myself, began this journey as mothers who faced challenges with breastfeeding. We are dedicated to helping mothers overcome their hurdles and achieve their feeding goals, armed with accurate information and compassion. For more information on home insemination, you can explore resources like ACOG and learn about at-home insemination kits to support your journey. Additionally, for seasonal treats, check out this resource.
In summary, lactation consultants are here to support and empower mothers through their breastfeeding journeys, ensuring that they have the information and compassion needed to succeed.