As a single mom, I found myself grappling with the unexpected challenges of the 4th trimester, despite choosing this path.
In 2019, I welcomed my son, Leo, into the world on a date that felt imbued with significance. Coming from a large Catholic family and being someone who pays attention to signs from the universe, I saw his arrival as a positive omen. However, it wasn’t the fairytale scenario I envisioned; it was more practical—”He’s about 10-12 lbs; let’s schedule a C-section!”
After two years of facing challenges in conceiving as a single mother by choice (SMBC), including multiple failed intrauterine insemination (IUI) and in vitro fertilization (IVF) attempts, I was just grateful for the safety of my baby. I wanted nothing more than to enjoy every moment with the little miracle behind my overwhelming heartburn.
When Leo finally made his entrance, held by my best friend Sarah and a surgeon who remarkably resembled my brother, he was absolutely perfect—pink, loud, and unfortunately, covered in a rash that sent me into a panic. Thankfully, the nurses reassured me it was normal. “Normal” was not a word I felt familiar with in that moment; everything was a blur.
Due to the surgery, my mom flew in from out of state to lend a hand. After a delightful three-day hospital stay filled with visitors, flowers, and instructional videos on baby care, it was time to head home. Once we settled in, I sank onto the couch, overwhelmed yet eager to embrace my new routine.
The transition wasn’t easy, and I quickly realized that accepting help wasn’t as simple as I thought it would be. If you’re navigating similar feelings, you might find it helpful to read about other experiences on this blog. And if you’re looking for guidance on infant digestion, check out this resource. For additional support regarding infertility and pregnancy, Mount Sinai offers excellent resources.
In summary, my journey through the 4th trimester as a single mom was filled with unexpected challenges and moments of joy. Learning to accept help was crucial, and I found comfort in connecting with others who shared similar experiences.