On days when you feel inadequate, when the weight of your shortcomings seems to overshadow your strengths, and when it feels like your mistakes are all anyone notices, especially remember this: you are more than those errors. You are not defined by poor decisions, fleeting tempers, or moments of impatience. You are human, and from the dawn of time, humanity has embraced imperfection—being imperfect is absolutely normal. That nagging guilt you carry? Your own mother felt it too.
That supermom who appears to have everything figured out, overflowing with motherly wisdom, was once just like you. She had her moments of doubt, days when she felt lost and overwhelmed. There were times when just one more round of a board game could push her over the edge, and she daydreamed of escaping to a quiet place, free from responsibilities and constant demands. She is normal. And so are you.
Life can become unexpectedly challenging, more difficult than you imagined in your youthful, idealistic dreams of home, marriage, and parenthood. You may find yourself feeling profoundly lonely, even in a crowd. That loneliness can be heavy, leaving you puzzled as to why sadness creeps in, despite loving those around you.
Sometimes, it seems like the people closest to you aren’t doing their part, whether it’s for a moment, a month, or longer. You might lash out in frustration, convinced that your support system is broken. Attempting to mend it becomes an uphill battle, one that feels like your sole responsibility. You might even want to shout at those around you or cling too tightly to them, struggling to recognize the person in front of you. Mistakes are made, and hurtful words can fly.
Yet, at the end of the day, both of you are still here. Together, you have navigated this journey, and together, you will emerge from it. That’s the essence of teamwork. And guess what? Your parents, grandparents, and their parents faced similar challenges. They were normal. You are normal too. Every relationship is a journey through imperfections and challenges, and it’s common for one partner to bear more of the burden at times.
If your team can’t emerge together, know that you can still come out stronger. Take Jennifer Lopez, for example; she faced her struggles and came through them. She is normal. And so are you.
Ultimately, we are defined not by our mistakes but by what we learn from them. So, be kinder to yourself; stop focusing solely on your failures. The truth? Your children don’t see your shortcomings. To them, you are simply their mom—the beautifully imperfect woman who makes delicious grilled cheese sandwiches and enjoys playing board games (just not dolls). They see a mother who acknowledges her mistakes and moves forward, while they continue with their day. So, let go of self-criticism, embrace your flaws, and celebrate them as part of your unique story.
On those tough days, remember: you are more capable than you realize. You are normal.
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Summary
Embrace your imperfections and recognize that they do not define you. You are more than your mistakes; you are a sum of your experiences and growth. Remember that even in moments of doubt, you are not alone—everyone faces challenges. Celebrate your journey and the love you give to those around you.