Feeling appreciated and admired, whether by men or women, can be flattering. Women naturally desire to be seen, to be noticed, and to feel beautiful. However, when admiration crosses the line into objectification, it becomes uncomfortable.
From a young age, I have experienced unwanted attention from men. I vividly remember an incident in sixth grade when an older man in a truck whistled at me and made an inappropriate gesture. At the time, I didn’t fully understand its meaning, but it made me feel uncomfortable and sick to my stomach. This type of attention has been a regular occurrence throughout my life, as if some men believe women exist solely for their pleasure. This perspective is not only degrading but also harmful.
Over time, I learned to navigate these situations by avoiding eye contact and dismissing lewd comments. After high school, I faced several instances of sexual abuse, leading me to internalize the belief that my worth was tied to my sexuality, which was a devastating realization.
In counseling, I was labeled as “a very sensual person,” which only reinforced the idea that my beauty was to blame for the abuse I suffered. No one ever compliments a woman on her intelligence or kindness; it’s almost always about her body. Society seems to send a message that if a woman is attractive, she has invited unwanted attention and inappropriate comments.
I take pride in my appearance and enjoy dressing well, but I often feel compelled to hide myself to avoid unwanted advances. It’s frustrating that some men are driven by their desires without considering the impact of their words or actions. While not every man behaves this way, those who do create an environment where women struggle to feel safe and confident.
To those men who perceive women as mere objects for their gratification: we are not here for your pleasure. Your catcalls are neither charming nor flattering. The pursuit of women, especially when one is married, only serves to objectify and dehumanize us. I do not want to dress to appease you, and I refuse to feel ashamed of my femininity or beauty.
My worth is not defined by how you perceive me, nor is my body available for your fantasies. This reality is exhausting. Women should feel empowered to express themselves without the fear of being reduced to mere objects.
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In summary, women are valuable individuals deserving of respect. Society’s tendency to objectify us is damaging and needs to change. It’s crucial for women to reclaim their identities beyond their appearances and for men to recognize the importance of treating women as equals.