In the landscape of gender discussions, I find it essential to critique men when necessary. Whether it’s a man who engages in mansplaining, shirks his household duties, or displays any form of racism or intolerance, I fully support calling out such behavior. In a recent article, I empathized with the sentiments expressed in Taylor Jennings’ book, “I Dislike Men.” I resonate with her feelings towards men as a collective group, although I don’t harbor the same sentiments towards individuals. My general stance is one of skepticism toward men; it’s preferable to be pleasantly surprised than to face consistent disappointment.
However, there’s one form of criticism that I find particularly troubling: the joke about someone having a small penis. Seriously, let’s put an end to this.
Dehumanizing Insults
First and foremost, it’s dehumanizing—and not just for the intended target. When such insults are flung around on social media, they can affect other men, including those who are supportive allies but may not fit the traditional mold of masculinity. Trans men, who might already struggle with feelings of inadequacy regarding their bodies, could feel even more invalidated. Similarly, intersex individuals may experience shame tied to their bodies not meeting societal norms.
I understand the temptation to use this type of insult, especially when faced with a man exhibiting the worst traits of toxic masculinity. It’s easy to want to deflate that inflated ego. We often view the overconfidence of certain men as a balloon begging to be popped. However, I refrain from making snide remarks about anyone’s anatomy. The truth is, a man’s worth isn’t defined by his genitals.
Counterproductive Insults
Reducing someone to a body part is inherently un-feminist. Women, in particular, should recognize that using physical attributes as an insult is counterproductive. Mocking a man’s penis size as a means to critique toxic masculinity only perpetuates harmful stereotypes. It reinforces the misguided notion that penis size determines masculinity, which is not only inaccurate but also detrimental.
This notion impacts everyone—trans men without penises may feel less valid, while trans women with penises may find their identity questioned. The idea that a large penis equates to higher desirability is equally flawed; many women prioritize emotional connection and attentiveness over physical attributes. In reality, penis size is a trivial concern for most.
Moving Beyond Body-Shaming
It’s important to remember that a person’s physical body should never be subjected to ridicule, regardless of their behavior. Insulting someone based on a perceived flaw only serves to spread negativity and shame among all who share that trait. When men exhibit obnoxious behavior, it’s essential to critique their actions and the gaps in their reasoning without bringing body parts into the conversation.
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In summary, it’s time to move beyond body-shaming jokes and focus on more constructive criticisms of behavior. Let’s foster a culture where we call out toxic actions without reducing anyone to their anatomy.