Wedding planning can feel like a monumental task, with decisions that seem trivial yet carry immense weight. For my partner and I, choosing between eight delectable cake flavors was an easy call, but selecting bridesmaids’ dresses turned into a humorous debate. I suggested a laid-back approach, allowing my friends to choose their outfits, yet I couldn’t resist vetoing a few truly unfortunate selections my sister proposed. However, the one decision that felt completely right was to welcome children to the celebration.
Let’s face it: kids are adorable little bundles of joy. As the bride, I was determined not to let anyone, especially a distant relative in white, steal my spotlight. But children? They effortlessly capture attention, and I embraced their charm. Watching my flower girl twirl on the groom’s shoes remains one of my fondest wedding memories.
Of course, I understand that kids aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. Weddings can be quite the financial strain, leading some couples to exclude children from their guest lists. Additionally, we all know that one uncle who might indulge in a few too many drinks and break out into an awkward dance – so it’s perfectly reasonable to consider an adult-only affair. Kids may not be the right fit for every wedding, and that’s completely valid.
But when it works, it’s an absolute blast.
Now that my partner and I have kids of our own, we face the dilemma of whether to bring them along to weddings. With a four-year-old son and a two-year-old daughter, we’ve experienced both delightful outings and total chaos. Long ceremonies, loud music, and late nights can quickly lead to the sentiment: “What were we thinking?”
My son has specific needs, and loud environments can be overwhelming. Recently, we debated leaving the kids with family during a wedding a few hours away. Ultimately, we decided to give it a go, preparing as best we could. We loaded up devices with shows and games, packed a stroller, and brought along snacks, crayons, and hearing-protective earmuffs for my son.
As we settled into the church, I prayed that Our Lady of Target would bless us with well-behaved kids. Miraculously, they made it through the entire mass without too much fuss. However, the reception brought new challenges. After a long car ride, both kids fell asleep, and upon waking, my son was less than thrilled, which led to the realization that maybe we should have just stayed home.
Before retreating, I thought it wise to feed the kids dinner. I set them up with plates of macaroni and cheese, hoping to salvage the evening. Just as I was about to call it quits, dessert arrived – trays of cookies. I seized the moment, promising my son cookies if he would let me put his earmuffs on. To my surprise, he only picked three and, after devouring them, was more than happy to wear the earmuffs.
That small gesture turned the night around. We re-entered the reception, and my son, feeling the sugar rush, joyfully danced with his adorable cousins. I joined in, and we spent the rest of the evening laughing and capturing memories. I was grateful we had chosen to bring our kids along.
Had we opted for a kid-free night, we would have enjoyed ourselves but missed out on a truly special experience. The laughter, the dancing, and the shared joy made it worthwhile. Weddings are celebratory occasions that unite loved ones, and I was thrilled that our celebration included our littlest family members.
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In summary, inviting kids to weddings can lead to unforgettable memories, filled with laughter and joy that enrich the celebration. Despite the challenges that come with little ones in attendance, the rewards are often worth it.