I was just thirteen when I experienced my first kiss. My crush, who was a year older, lived nearby. He would nervously knock on my door and invite me for a walk in the afternoons after school. We would stroll through our quiet suburban streets, hand in hand, chatting about the trivial matters that consumed our teenage minds. It felt secretive, like we were engaged in something forbidden, even though our entire romance revolved around a shared love for classic rock bands.
One crisp autumn day, he paused in the middle of the street and kissed me, our braces clinking together, his breath a mix of Binaca and youthful excitement. I leaned into the kiss, enjoying the warmth of the October sun and the scent of his Drakkar Noir cologne. I wished that moment could last forever, though I secretly hoped I knew how to kiss better.
Though my own adolescence feels like a distant memory, my son is now navigating his own version of thirteen. The reality of his impending first kiss looms closer, and it’s clear he will soon explore his own sexual experiences. With this in mind, I must confront an uncomfortable truth: sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are a significant risk, and it’s my responsibility as a parent to ensure he is equipped to protect himself and his future partners.
One crucial aspect of this protection is the human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine. HPV can be transmitted through vaginal, anal, and oral sex, and it has been linked to various cancers, including cervical and throat cancer. Both men and women are at risk, with men often unknowingly passing the virus to multiple partners. The CDC reports that HPV affects 79 million people, with 14 million new infections each year. Additionally, men are at a higher risk of developing genital warts, which affects hundreds of thousands of sexually active individuals annually.
Fortunately, the HPV vaccine provides a simple means of prevention. If I am teaching my son about safe sex practices, it only makes sense to also vaccinate him against a preventable STD. After reviewing the statistics, I chose to have him vaccinated with a quick series of three shots rather than watch him struggle with a disease that can have serious long-term consequences.
We made the decision to vaccinate our son when he turned twelve because it aligns with our values in today’s world. We have always raised him to embody the principles of respect and kindness. As an older brother, he has learned the importance of treating women with dignity. He knows to hold doors open, pull out chairs, and bring thoughtful gifts on special occasions. His understanding of respect extends beyond gestures; it’s about valuing his partner’s feelings and experiences.
Having discussed the concept of consent and the importance of mutual pleasure, I’ve emphasized that if he experiences an orgasm, his partner should, too. I’ve made it clear that sexual interactions should be considerate and respectful, and teaching him about HPV is part of this broader conversation. Being a gentleman means more than just romantic gestures; it also involves taking responsible actions to protect his partner’s health, such as receiving the HPV vaccine.
By vaccinating my son against HPV, I am also looking out for the mothers of the girls he may date in the future. I cannot imagine any mother would object to my efforts to help prevent cervical cancer in their daughters. Likewise, I would appreciate the same consideration from others regarding my son’s health. Nobody wants to see their child suffer from a preventable illness.
Some have asked whether we gave our son a choice in this decision. While we did not, we had an open conversation about HPV, its transmission, and why the vaccine is beneficial for him and his potential partners. In the doctor’s office, he blushed and mentioned that he didn’t foresee having sex anytime soon. I silently thanked my lucky stars while reminding myself that, for now, he is still my little boy.
As for my own teenage romance, it didn’t last long. My first crush eventually left me for someone with bigger hair and a fonder appreciation for Bon Jovi. That’s perfectly fine; I later found a wonderful partner who made my heart flutter in ways I could never have imagined.
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In summary, getting my son vaccinated against HPV is a proactive step that reflects our commitment to his well-being and that of his future partners. It’s a simple yet significant measure in the ever-evolving landscape of sexual health.