Growing up as the eldest of four sisters, I was bound by certain family rules that shaped my early understanding of communication. Television was strictly limited, with only special family nights allowed for educational PBS shows. Clean clothes were a must, and swearing? Absolutely forbidden. Even the slightest slip into the realm of profanity was a surefire way to face serious consequences, like being sent to bed without dinner. The mere thought of uttering a four-letter word felt as taboo as confessing to a crime.
Ironically, my parents were not immune to colorful language. My mother often infused her parenting requests with expletives, emphasizing her words with an intensity that made her point clear. “Clean your damn room!” was a typical battle cry, while my father’s rare but stern demands echoed like a scene from a classic film—calm yet commanding. “Clean… your… room… now,” he would state, sending us into a frenzy of compliance.
Fast forward to my pre-teen years. At a friend’s party, I was immersed in a whirlwind of profanity, as my peers reveled in the freedom of adolescence. Surrounded by laughter and the liberated use of swear words, I felt as though I was part of a unique rite of passage. Though I maintained my composure around my parents, I spent the next two decades refining my ability to wield language with a bit of edge.
College and the professional world expanded my vocabulary further, as I mingled with colleagues who shared a similar penchant for expressive language. I found a certain thrill in swearing; it felt sophisticated yet rebellious. When I married someone who enjoyed cursing just as much, our conversations became a canvas for creative profanity, seamlessly woven into our daily discourse.
However, everything changed when we welcomed our first child. Like many new parents, I was determined to shield my son from inappropriate language. It was an unwritten rule that swearing around young children was unacceptable, akin to wearing pajamas in public. Suddenly, I transformed into a model of decorum, even reprimanding strangers for their language in front of my child.
As I struggled to articulate my feelings without the comfort of cursing, I resorted to sanitized expressions that felt inadequate. Words like “oh shoot” or “fudge” simply didn’t capture the emotional turmoil I experienced, leaving me feeling stifled. Ironically, in the rare moments without my children, my language would revert back to its former, more colorful self, much to my husband’s bemusement.
I soon realized that my sons were picking up on the concept of swearing, whether from playground chatter or the TV shows they watched. “My friend said the ‘s’ word yesterday,” one of my boys would reveal at breakfast, eyes wide with mischief. I found myself surprisingly unbothered. After all, there were far worse behaviors I could imagine them adopting than the occasional curse word. In the grand scheme, profanity is often just a means of expression, a release for pent-up emotions.
Rather than imposing strict rules about cursing, I’ve focused on teaching my children about context. Understanding when and where to use certain language is essential. Swearing might earn you a laugh among friends but could cost you in professional settings.
While I haven’t returned to my former habit of swearing freely, I occasionally let a curse slip when emotions run high. My sons chuckle at the sound, reveling in the thrill of “bad” words. They’d love to unleash something more daring than “frickin,” and I’ve promised that when they reach 16, they can explore the world of colorful language more freely.
Because honestly, that’s young enough to start.
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Summary:
Navigating the world of swearing as a parent can be challenging. From enforcing strict no-swearing rules in childhood to grappling with the allure of profanity during adolescence, the journey is filled with contradictions. Ultimately, teaching children about the appropriate use of language within context may prove to be more valuable than simply banning certain words altogether.