In recent times, I’ve found myself saying “yes” to my children much more frequently since I resumed my full-time job. Take, for instance, my youngest, Lucas, who has an undeniable love for fast food—specifically, the 4 for 4 from Wendy’s. When he requests it, I often find myself exclaiming “YES!” even before he finishes asking.
Reflecting on my past as a stay-at-home mom, I recognize that my willingness to indulge him is quite different now. As a working mom, I embrace the convenience of fast food, not just for the ease of not having to cook, but because my focus is now divided. Three years ago, my entire life revolved around my children. I cherished that time, but as my priorities evolved, so did my approach to parenting.
I’ve come to terms with a little guilt that often accompanies my new lifestyle. Transitioning to a working mom has changed the dynamics for all of us, and sometimes that guilt can be eased with a bit of indulgence—be it fast food, a new outfit, or a fun activity. Admittedly, I spend less time with my kids than I once did, and I can’t always attend games or bake cookies as often as I’d like. However, they now have a mother who feels fulfilled and empowered, contributing financially and pursuing my passion for writing.
By following my dreams, I’m not only nurturing my own happiness but also showing my kids the importance of pursuing one’s passions. I want them to understand that it’s okay to prioritize oneself occasionally, and that it’s impossible to do everything perfectly. My job is essential for our family’s financial security, and while sacrifices were made when I started working, the reality is that not working would require even bigger sacrifices. Bills need to be paid, and I prefer to provide them with the best version of myself—a mom who takes care of her own needs.
This newfound perspective allows me to be more generous with my “yes.” Whether it’s letting their friends come over or agreeing to spontaneous requests while shopping, I find myself saying “yes” far more than I did when I was at home. Previously, I would have hesitated due to guilt or cost concerns, but now I recognize that there will always be some form of guilt in parenting, and I refuse to let it dictate my choices.
Am I risking spoiling my kids? Perhaps. Do they occasionally display entitlement? Certainly, but that’s been part of their behavior long before I returned to work. I’ve learned that as one aspect of life flourishes, it inevitably draws time and attention away from others, whether that’s a career, friendships, or family life. I’ve accepted that something has to give, and my kids understand this too.
For now, I’ll continue to embrace saying “yes.” My home will be bustling with their friends, the recycling bin will overflow with takeout containers, and I will be here, engaged in what I love, knowing my kids are thriving—along with a very content mother.
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Summary
The transition to a full-time working mom has led me to embrace a more permissive approach with my children, allowing for spontaneity and indulgence. This shift not only brings joy to my kids but also fulfills my own needs, demonstrating the importance of self-care and personal aspirations in parenting.