Every day, I take my dog Bella for walks around our neighborhood, usually with one or both of my daughters by my side. While this may seem like an ordinary routine, I must confess that I would be terrified to walk these streets alone. In fact, throughout my four years of living in this house, I’ve never ventured out for a stroll without my girls or my dog— and I likely never will.
Some might think I’m being overly dramatic or playing the “race card,” a term I still struggle to understand. But this is my reality. When I’m out walking hand-in-hand with my young daughters and my lovable dog, I’m just a devoted father taking a break from the challenges of remote learning. However, without them, I quickly transform into a figure of suspicion in the eyes of some members of the community. To them, I’m not just a caring dad; I’m a tall, athletic Black man in a mask, perceived as someone who doesn’t belong in their neighborhood, even though I’m simply trying to enjoy a walk in my own community.
It’s both exhausting and disheartening to feel unsafe walking alone, fearing I might be targeted.
If this surprises you, it shouldn’t. We live in a society where many still deny the existence of racism and dismiss the concept of White Privilege as a political construct. Despite the tragic events surrounding George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, and others, some people remain oblivious to the ongoing issues.
Here are some straightforward points to consider:
- White privilege doesn’t negate personal struggles; it simply means that race isn’t one of the barriers you face. If you’ve never worried about being approached by law enforcement for simply enjoying nature, know that many people of color don’t have that same luxury.
- Responding to “Black Lives Matter” with “All Lives Matter” is tone-deaf and dismissive. All lives can’t matter until Black lives matter.
- Racism is a very real issue that extends beyond the fringes of society. The recent actions of individuals like Amy Cooper illustrate that it exists in all walks of life.
- Reverse racism is a myth. Please refrain from using that term.
- The role of white allies is crucial in combating racism. If you’re white and reading this, your voice is essential. Speak up for people of color, even if it makes some of your friends uncomfortable.
- If you choose silence in the face of injustice, it raises serious questions about your allegiance. If you aren’t willing to stand against actions that could endanger me, I wonder how genuine your friendship really is.
As for me, I’ll continue to walk with my daughters, hoping they’ll keep me safe in a world that often doesn’t recognize my humanity. It might seem backward, but that’s the reality we live in today.
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Summary
Walking my dog in my neighborhood is a daily routine, but I never do it alone. The presence of my daughters makes me feel safe and signifies my role as a caring father. Without them, societal perceptions can turn me into a figure of suspicion rather than a loving dad. This reality illustrates the ongoing struggles with racism and the importance of allyship in addressing these issues.