Even my husband, Mark, might raise an eyebrow at the headline of this article. The thought that “Jessica? Prioritizes her husband first?” may cross his mind. But, dear Mark, please know I genuinely try to put you at the forefront, even if it doesn’t always come across that way.
It’s impossible for me to rank my love for the significant people in my life. My parents have shaped who I am, and my sister holds a cherished spot in my heart for all the memories we’ve shared. Yet, Mark is the one I’ve chosen to journey through life with. My children were a wanted blessing, bestowed upon me by fate. I love them all equally, without a doubt.
However, life is about making choices, and as such, I’ve adopted the philosophy of prioritizing my husband over my children. Those who know me, including Mark, might assume my children are my top priority, but my love is evenly distributed. I want to explain my reasoning behind this approach, especially for my children, who may read this someday.
Here are my reasons for choosing to place my husband first:
We Chose Each Other
Out of everyone in my life, I selected Mark to be my partner. He deserves to be my first priority, even after our kids arrived. It’s essential not to take him for granted and to continuously express my love for him, as he was there long before our children came along.
No One Else Will Put Us First
If Mark and I don’t prioritize each other, who will? We made vows to support one another through life’s ups and downs. He often puts others before himself, which I admire but also want to ensure he doesn’t neglect his own needs.
We Are the Foundation for Our Family
My primary goal is to create a happy home, which consists of Mark, our children, and me. True family happiness stems from the happiness of all its members. If I focus solely on the kids, Mark might feel overlooked, leading to tension in our marriage. By prioritizing one another, we strengthen our family’s bond and ensure a nurturing environment for our children.
Fostering Selflessness in Our Kids
As modern parents, we often place our children’s interests first, seeking advice from books and online communities. However, it’s crucial to teach our children that they are not always the center of attention. They must understand that while they may shine at times, there are moments when others will take precedence.
Teaching Future Relationships
Mark and I serve as the primary example of a marriage for our children. They will learn what a healthy partnership looks like by observing our relationship. I want them to understand the importance of putting their future spouses first, as it leads to a harmonious family dynamic.
Preparing for the Future
Eventually, our children will grow up and start their own lives, leaving just Mark and me. If we neglect our relationship now, it may be challenging to reconnect later. Therefore, I’m committed to nurturing our love and connection as a couple moving forward.
Prioritizing my husband doesn’t mean neglecting my children; it simply means that in the decisions I make, I consciously consider Mark’s feelings alongside the kids’.
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In summary, prioritizing my husband enriches our family life, fosters mutual respect, and sets a positive example for our children. A strong partnership ultimately leads to a more loving and supportive family environment.