In contemplating whether to expand my family, I found myself reminiscing about cherished baby snapshots of my first child. Yet, upon encountering a chaotic image of my then 10-month-old son creatively using spaghetti as wall paint, I reconsidered the notion of having another child. Perhaps our family unit is perfectly balanced, I mused, as I deleted the image from my feed.
Currently, I am in the process of erasing a staggering 1,857 photos I’ve previously shared of my children on social media. While I’m aware that some remnants may linger in the vastness of the digital realm, it brings me peace to know that hard copies will remain secure at home. This will allow me to start fresh on social media, with a clean slate.
Living in Germany with my spouse and two kids, I’ve utilized social media as a primary means to maintain connections with family and friends back in the States. However, recent recommendations from the German government advise parents against posting their children’s photos online due to privacy concerns. Additionally, some European nations have enacted stringent privacy laws, granting children the right to take legal action against parents who share their images without consent.
Although these societal shifts have influenced my decision to delete old posts, my primary motivation stems from a desire to instill the importance of bodily autonomy and consent in my children. Whether in physical form or as a digital representation, the principles governing respect for one’s body should always apply. Consequently, I will always seek my children’s approval before sharing their images online.
Some may view this stance as extreme, or even slightly eccentric. However, a study published in JAMA Pediatrics highlights alarming trends among adolescents aged 11 to 17, revealing that 15% are sending and 27% are receiving sexually explicit images, commonly referred to as “sexting.” Even more concerning, 12% admitted to forwarding such materials without consent. Furthermore, issues like upskirting, revenge porn, and cyberbullying illustrate the potential violations of one’s digital identity when consent is ignored. The reality is, our children will inevitably face these challenges, and we must equip them to handle their online presence with care.
To prepare our kids for the complexities of social media, teaching them about consent and respecting personal boundaries is crucial. Reflecting on the countless occasions my children have shown disinterest in being photographed, I realize I may have overlooked their right to consent and personal boundaries. By pressuring them into compliance with my parental-paparazzi pursuits, I risk undermining their instincts, which are essential for their safety. Just as I wouldn’t force my children to show affection to someone against their will, I must also refrain from imposing their digital images onto social media without their agreement.
Empowering my children with the ability to say “no” or “I’d rather not share that” will hopefully prepare them for future requests from peers, romantic interests, or even unwanted advances from strangers online. This practice will nurture their comfort and security in digital spaces. Furthermore, by instilling in them the importance of respecting others’ digital boundaries, I am helping to lay the groundwork for healthier decision-making as they transition into adolescence—an age characterized by curiosity and heightened emotions.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have some digital housekeeping to attend to, and perhaps you do too. Delete. Delete. Delete.
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Summary
This article discusses the importance of seeking children’s consent before sharing their photos online, emphasizing the values of body autonomy and privacy in a digital age where their personal images can be misused. It highlights the pressing need for parents to educate their children about consent, particularly as they navigate the complexities of modern social interactions and potential online threats.