Anxiety. It’s a part of me. There, I’ve said it. Yet, oddly enough, I don’t feel relieved. Is this something that’s off-limits for discussion? Am I meant to handle it privately or solely with my therapist? But then again, if I seek therapy, does that mean there’s something fundamentally wrong with me? After all, my life seems picture-perfect. So why on earth should I be anxious?
This past year has brought a mix of fortunes for my family—my eldest, Mia, is excelling academically, my partner and I both received promotions, and our middle child has shown significant improvements. But it hasn’t been all sunshine; the toughest blow was learning that my mother’s health is declining. This year has been the most challenging I’ve ever faced.
As a result, my anxiety has skyrocketed. I feel it’s crucial to talk about this. Why? Because I can’t navigate this journey alone! How often do you confide in someone about your struggles, only to find they can relate? Sharing our burdens doesn’t diminish us; it strengthens us. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it reflects our humanity.
In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown emphasizes that true connection blossoms when we reveal our authentic selves. I’m far from perfect. I have my flaws—I bite my nails, I occasionally raise my voice, and yes, I enjoy a glass (or two) of wine! However, amidst all this, I know that I am a caring parent. My anxiety has, in fact, made me a more empathetic mom.
My eldest daughter, Mia, has begun to exhibit signs of anxiety herself. She becomes physically ill after receiving disappointing grades, and she often shuts down during confrontations. My experiences allow me to recognize her struggles better; I can comfort her through her tough moments, even if it means sitting quietly for hours.
Then there’s my middle child, Lucy, who gets so overwhelmed when she feels unheard that she resorts to shallow breathing until we establish eye contact and breathe deeply together. I hope my youngest, Ava, doesn’t face similar challenges, but I’m ready to support her if she does.
Every time I experience anxiety or a panic attack, I’ve learned to communicate with those around me. This helps me excuse myself to take a moment and focus on my breathing, without worrying about others’ perceptions.
Since I’ve opened up to friends, family, and colleagues about my anxiety, the support I’ve received has been overwhelming. It’s a liberating experience compared to those moments when I would hide away just to cry.
I wish all workplaces prioritized mental health like mine does. I’ve encountered individuals who believe anxiety can simply be “trained” away, dismissing the chemical aspects of mental health. Instead of offering unsolicited advice, we should ask, “How can I help?” or take initiative by saying, “I’ll handle that for you today.”
Sheryl Sandberg shared that after her husband’s passing, a friend’s best gesture was not asking how to help, which places the burden on the person in pain. Instead, they simply took action, showing up with coffee in hand and asking about her preference for cream cheese on her bagel.
Since I’ve started discussing my anxiety, I’ve felt a surge of support. People are stepping in to assist when I’m struggling, and they’re understanding when I decline invitations I might have previously accepted.
Dealing with mental health is not a weakness; speaking about it is a strength. I sincerely hope that anyone grappling with anxiety finds the support they need. If you’re feeling isolated, don’t hesitate to reach out—sharing my experiences has been one of the best decisions I’ve made, and I encourage you to do the same if it feels right for you.
A heartfelt thank you to my friends and family for your unwavering support. You mean the world to me.
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Summary:
This article discusses the author’s personal journey with anxiety, emphasizing the importance of openness and support. Despite life’s challenges, sharing struggles can foster connection and understanding. The author highlights how anxiety has improved their parenting, enabling them to recognize and assist their children through similar issues. The narrative encourages readers to seek help and offers resources for those navigating similar experiences.