A few weeks ago, I noticed my kids had developed a new phrase: “Do I have to?” It seemed to be their response to every single request I made. As if I would say, “Oh sweetheart, you don’t have to do anything but exist and enjoy endless ice cream sandwiches.”
These words started popping up when I asked them to tackle simple tasks, like picking up their clothes, practicing their instruments, or getting ready for bed. They would whine so dramatically that I half-expected the neighbor’s dogs to join in. I often found myself staring in disbelief, questioning how I had raised such entitled children who resisted even the most mundane chores.
“No, you don’t have to do anything,” I would retort. “Just like I don’t have to resist the urge to spend your college fund on new shoes.” This usually earned me a lackluster eye roll, and they would begrudgingly complete their tasks, moving as if I’d asked them to donate a limb to science. It was exhausting and incredibly frustrating to witness.
From the moment my children were born, I vowed they wouldn’t become spoiled. I was determined not to play the role of their maid; they would learn to be self-sufficient as soon as they were capable. They would be respectful, contributing members of our household. They would fetch their own drinks and load their plates into the dishwasher—no exceptions.
However, I was now confronted with the uncomfortable reality that our kids were acting like spoiled brats, and we could only blame ourselves. I believe it all began when we got lazy about monitoring their screen time. Instead of encouraging outdoor play after school, I let them unwind with screens. One day, I saw my son trying to navigate the stairs while glued to his iPad—he wouldn’t even put it down. That’s when the “Do I have to?” mantra emerged. Basic etiquette like saying “please” and “thank you” began to slip away, turning small tasks into epic battles. I was utterly drained and infuriated.
This phase of parenting is the hardest part—actually getting things done. The joy of having kids fades when you have to teach them not to act like brats. Their spoiled behavior becomes embarrassing in public, and I genuinely enjoy being out and about.
So, we had a family intervention. We made a commitment to monitor screen time more diligently. We gathered the kids and clarified our expectations for them if they wanted to enjoy life’s pleasures—like bacon and love.
Just kidding—we always give them bacon! So what’s their deal? Parenting requires immense time, effort, and yes, a lot of garbage bags. I understand the reluctance to comply immediately, but respecting family members is paramount. The effort is worthwhile when you reach a point where you can enjoy your kids’ company without feeling the urge to strangle them with their misplaced jackets. They deserve to enjoy the peace of not being yelled at every five minutes.
I’m committed to investing the time and effort necessary to ensure we’re not raising entitled individuals. I hope you’ll join us in this endeavor. For more insights on parenting and family dynamics, check out this post on creating a family environment that fosters growth.
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Summary:
When children start behaving like spoiled brats, it may be time for a family intervention. Establishing clear expectations and monitoring screen time can help combat entitled behavior. Investing time and effort into parenting ensures children grow up respectful and self-sufficient, creating a more enjoyable family environment.