So, you’ve stumbled upon a surprising sight: your child was watching adult content. Now what?
First off, don’t blame yourself or get upset about giving them a device or not implementing effective parental controls. This is a common scenario in today’s digital age. In my childhood during the ’80s, we had more limited access, but curiosity was still there—just harder to get caught.
It’s completely natural for kids to be curious, and even if you monitor their electronics closely, they’re likely to encounter such material through friends or other means. The best approach, especially as a parent of teenagers myself, is to handle the situation calmly and thoughtfully.
I consulted with Dr. Sarah Reed, the head of a research-based organization focused on empowering parents to discuss adult content with their children. They offer programs designed for parents of young teens on how to navigate conversations about adult content.
Dr. Reed provided several key pieces of advice for parents, whether or not you’ve already caught your child in the act. Here’s how to approach the situation:
- Avoid Shame: Remember that most children’s first exposure to adult content is accidental, according to research.
- Use Age-Appropriate Language: If your child is willing to talk, ask them about what they saw without pressure. If they aren’t ready, suggest a time in the coming days to discuss it. This allows them space to process their feelings.
- Use Correct Terminology: Referring to body parts accurately can foster open communication. Ask how they felt about what they viewed and clarify that what they saw is often not representative of real-life adult relationships, which should be based on consent, empathy, and mutual enjoyment—none of which are typically depicted in adult content.
- Encourage Ongoing Conversations: Let your child know they can always approach you with questions, including about adult content. It’s more effective to have many brief discussions rather than one long talk.
- Avoid Lecturing: Ask open-ended questions and view this as the start of a dialogue. You want your child to feel safe coming to you with their thoughts and concerns.
As Dr. Reed wisely noted, “If we don’t discuss these topics with our children, the industry will fill that gap.”
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In summary, encountering your child watching adult content can be daunting, but it’s essential to approach the situation with understanding and open communication. By fostering an environment where your child feels comfortable discussing these topics, you can help guide them through their curiosity with accurate information and support.