Dear Parents, Grandparents, Friends, Family, Grocery Store Staff, and Repair Technicians,
As you may have noticed (or perhaps heard, since they tend to be quite loud), I am the proud mother of two boys. Yes, boys. Besides myself and our feisty little dog, our household is entirely male. While I might have envisioned a different family dynamic filled with hair ribbons and twirly skirts, I wouldn’t trade my boys for anything. I LOVE them.
However, there are certain remarks made about or to my sons that I could do without. First, let me clarify that I recognize many comments come from a place of good intentions. For instance, when you ask if we’re hoping for a girl—no, we’re quite content with our current children! Or when you assume that having boys means we’re free from drama or sensitivity—trust me, there’s plenty of eye-rolling, door-slamming, and tearful outbursts happening here.
I realize many of these comments are just casual chit-chat, like asking my son about his sports interests. Some may even be compliments, such as, “Wow, you must have your hands full!” Yes, I do have my hands full—in the best way possible.
Instead of dwelling on the comments that might sting, let’s focus on what we moms of boys truly want to hear. There’s one simple thing that resonates with all parents, and on some days, we’re particularly eager for it. There are days filled with uncertainty, frustration over the chaos, and even moments when we can’t imagine life without our boys.
At the core, we want to raise strong, sensitive, confident, curious, loving, and kind boys who will grow into exceptional men. We seek reassurance that we aren’t alone in this journey and that we’re not completely messing things up.
So, what should you say to a mom of boys? It’s quite straightforward: Smile, check in on how she’s doing, and then, no matter her response, tell her: “You’re doing a wonderful job. Those boys are lucky to have you.”
Chances are, she’ll return your smile and say “thank you.” She may even blush or brush off your comment. Or you might just find her hugging you in gratitude because you’ve truly made her day.
It really is that simple.
Warmly,
A Mom of Boys
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Summary
Mothers of boys often face well-meaning yet misguided comments about their children. While they love their boys, they crave encouragement and reassurance. A simple compliment can brighten their day and help them feel supported in their parenting journey.