What Defines a Healthy Relationship? Let’s Explore!

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by Alex Morgan
Updated: Dec. 13, 2021
Originally Published: Sep. 17, 2021

What does a nurturing, lasting partnership truly look like? Movies and television often lead us to believe that it must be filled with endless romance (or conflict) and that something is amiss if we don’t experience grand romantic displays regularly. But are these really the hallmarks of a healthy relationship? Surely there’s more to it!

Spoiler alert: There is indeed much more to a healthy relationship than the glamorized portrayals we see in entertainment. Building loving relationships requires effort. Every couple is unique, and while dynamics will vary, here are some essential traits that contribute to a healthy relationship and how you can model these for your children.

Key Traits of a Healthy Relationship

1. Mutual Respect
   It’s vital to demonstrate that you appreciate your partner as a person, along with their feelings and needs. This respect becomes especially important during disagreements. Embracing the idea of agreeing to disagree is key, as every individual brings their own perspectives.
   How to achieve it: Cultivate respect by being an attentive listener, communicating directly and calmly, and showing appreciation for your partner.
2. Trust
   Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship. Partners should feel secure sharing their thoughts and feelings while also allowing each other personal space.
   How to achieve it: Foster trust by being open and vulnerable, and by giving your partner the benefit of the doubt.
3. Honesty
   Closely linked to trust is honesty. Healthy partners don’t conceal their feelings from one another. They respect each other enough to communicate openly. While expressing true feelings can be tough, hiding them can lead to resentment. Dr. Jamie L. Carter advises that “truth should be conveyed with love and kindness.”
   How to achieve it: Build honesty by being reliable, communicating clearly and without judgment.
4. Effective Communication
   The path to trust and honesty involves effective communication. Express your needs and expectations clearly. Work together to tackle challenges and strengthen your bond by checking in regularly.
   How to achieve it: Improve communication by being trustworthy, honest, and respectful. Make time for meaningful conversations, be attentive to body language, and avoid assuming you know what your partner is thinking.
5. Seeing Your Partner as a Best Friend
   Some relationships begin as friendships, creating a strong foundation for a healthy partnership. For others, friendship develops after romantic feelings grow. Ultimately, viewing your partner as your best friend fosters a deep connection.
   How to achieve it: Strengthen this friendship by being a supportive teammate and cherishing the little moments together.
6. Celebrating Each Other’s Successes
   Rejoice in your partner’s achievements, no matter how big or small. “A healthy relationship values not just who you are together but also who you are as individuals,” notes Dr. Carter.
   How to achieve it: Show genuine interest in your partner’s unique qualities and celebrate their successes enthusiastically.

Additional Signs of a Strong Relationship

The indicators of a healthy partnership go beyond the basics. Clinical psychologist Lisa Hart outlines other aspects that demonstrate a relationship’s strength, such as:

• Knowing the significant people in your partner’s life.
• Valuing your partner’s opinions.
• Maintaining a playful dynamic.
• Thinking about each other when apart.
• Viewing your partner in a more positive light than they see themselves.
• Remembering your partner’s favorite books.
• Reflecting on shared challenging experiences.
• Being aware of what embarrasses your partner the most.
• Rarely speaking harshly to one another.
• Identifying positive traits in your partner’s child if you have one.
• Frequently expressing gratitude and admiration for one another.

Facing Challenges in Relationships?

If your relationship doesn’t seem to embody all these traits, don’t be discouraged. Healthy relationships require ongoing effort and commitment from both partners. If you find yourself consistently struggling, there may be deeper issues at play:

• Are you overly distrustful?
• Do you tend to please others at your own expense?
• Are you avoidant due to past experiences?
• Do you often worry about rejection?
• Do you find yourself alternating between clinginess and emotional distance?

Additionally, keep an eye out for these signs within your relationship:

• Are you or your partner attempting to change one another?
• Does the relationship feel unbalanced?
• Does your partner respect your boundaries?
• Are hurtful words common in your exchanges?
• Do you feel your voice is valued?
• Are you apprehensive about sharing your feelings?

Sharon Green, LCSW, emphasizes that recognizing these patterns can be difficult, but change is possible with willingness to address and work through these issues.

Expert Insight

Avoid relying on online lists of unhealthy relationship traits, as these can foster a victim mentality and damage both current and future relationships. Dr. Robert Sinclair advises that instead of focusing on negative traits, you should concentrate on nurturing a healthy partnership that meets both you and your partner’s unique needs.

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Summary

In summary, a healthy relationship is characterized by mutual respect, trust, honesty, effective communication, friendship, and celebrating each other’s achievements. Recognizing both the strengths and challenges within your relationship can help you nurture a loving bond. Remember that every relationship is unique, and it’s essential to honor both your individuality and partnership.