If you’ve ever felt guilty about how much time your child spends on screens, rest assured you’re not alone. It often seems that screen time rules dominate our daily parenting choices. “Mom, can I watch YouTube? Can I play Roblox? Can I play Minecraft? I want to look at TikTok!” The pressure from so-called “parenting experts” can make us feel like we’re failing when it comes to managing our kids’ screen habits.
The pandemic shifted many perspectives on screen time, leading families to relax their rules out of necessity. After all, those devices can be incredibly useful for parents trying to juggle work and responsibilities while keeping their children occupied. Even the so-called “parenting gurus” are starting to acknowledge the reality: screen time isn’t causing irreversible damage to our kids’ brains, and rigid rules are unrealistic in today’s world.
In a piece for Mother Jones, psychologist Dr. Sarah Thompson from the University of Cambridge points out that the guilt surrounding screen time is often rooted in questionable science. She notes that many studies examining the negative effects of screen time rely on unreliable memories of how much time children really spend on devices. Moreover, she highlights that brain imaging studies are often vague and not definitive.
Concerns about new technologies are not a new phenomenon. Dr. Thompson mentions that philosophers from ancient Greece believed writing would make young people rebellious, while 18th-century parents worried about their children becoming addicted to reading. Even a 1940s parenting magazine warned about the dangers of radio capturing children’s attention in their homes.
Child development expert Dr. Emily Johnson, who is also a mother and co-founder of a children’s media company, told the New York Times, “Research on child development will never keep pace with technology, leading us to make fear-based decisions. Many people think that if we aren’t completely sure about something, it must be harmful and should be avoided.” Dr. Johnson emphasized the need to move away from black-and-white thinking, noting, “You don’t want your kids glued to screens all the time—that’s just common sense. However, not all screen time is detrimental.”
Some experts argue that having an anti-screen viewpoint comes from a place of privilege. For many parents, screen time provides a safe way to entertain their kids while balancing work and other obligations. The pandemic has highlighted this reality for countless families.
Parenting expert Alex Rivera even apologized for his previous anti-screen stance in a New York Times article, acknowledging, “I want to apologize to anyone who felt judged for not managing a ‘healthy balance’ with screens. That was a significant oversight on my part.”
Child psychologist Dr. Max Lee from the Digital Wellness Institute states, “Screens aren’t inherently harmful; they’re neutral. What matters is how we use them.” Dr. Johnson agrees and urges parents to seek a balanced approach by asking, “How does this specific device or screen enhance or detract from our experiences?”
Rivera adds, “What I’ve come to realize is that many of our concerns about technology don’t stem from the screens themselves but from the disruptions in our relationships with ourselves and others.” Dr. Thompson suggests that fostering connections is key, saying, “You can argue with your kids about screen time or cuddle up next to them and say, ‘Can I have a hug?’”
No one is advocating for unrestricted screen time or ignoring what children do online; after all, you want to keep your kids safe from inappropriate content. However, there’s no need to feel guilty every time you hand over a device to get things done.
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Summary:
It’s time to ease the anxiety surrounding kids’ screen time. Experts agree that the guilt often associated with screen usage is based on shaky science and that a balanced approach is essential. Rather than adhering to strict rules, parents should focus on how screens can enhance family interactions while acknowledging that complete avoidance of technology is neither practical nor necessary.