By: Alex Johnson
Updated: Dec. 10, 2020
Originally Published: May 19, 2020
Imagine finally meeting the person of your dreams only to realize that a long-distance relationship complicates your journey together. You’re on opposite sides of the country, each with your own children to care for. Just as you start to establish a routine of seeing each other—albeit infrequently—a pandemic strikes, throwing everything into disarray.
Months pass without any physical connection, and video calls only deepen the longing you feel. Each time you see your partner’s face on screen, it’s a bittersweet reminder of the hugs and intimate moments you’re missing out on. Add a cocktail of grief, frustration, and desire, and it’s clear why virtual intimacy has become essential during this time.
Speaking from personal experience, I find myself exploring creative ways to maintain sexual connection through screens. While nothing beats in-person intimacy, virtual sex has proven to be a more enjoyable alternative to solo experiences, allowing for shared moments that still feel special, even from a distance.
Having navigated a long-distance relationship before the pandemic, my partner and I have honed our communication skills. We rely on text messages, calls, and video chats, developing a rhythm for expressing our desires—often using emojis or playful language to keep the spark alive. The comfort of being nude in front of each other adds an exciting layer to our conversations, turning mundane chats into steamy exchanges once the kids are asleep.
Trust and vulnerability form the foundation of our relationship, creating a safe space for intimacy. This makes it easier to engage in virtual sex, even while miles apart. Initially, it can be awkward to see yourself during these intimate moments, shifting the focus from your partner to your own appearance. However, embracing the experience together is what truly matters.
While I find it exhilarating to watch my partner’s pleasure, it’s important that she feels just as comfortable. Sharing the desire for each other’s satisfaction is key. Even through a screen, creating a space of unspoken admiration and consent allows the intimacy to unfold naturally.
Our exchanges are more than just virtual encounters; they are moments where we peel away layers of clothing—metaphorically speaking—through our words and gazes. Sometimes we dive right in, while other times, we build anticipation. The thrill of “the look” can be just as intoxicating through a screen as it is in person.
We tease each other, share desires, and encourage exploration of our bodies. There’s no room for ego; using sex toys does not detract from the experience but enhances it. A remote-controlled toy like the We-Vibe, which you can control via an app, adds a new dimension to our play, even if I don’t have one yet—it’s definitely on my wishlist!
Virtual intimacy isn’t always a walk in the park. If one of us isn’t feeling up to it, we can always switch things up. Instead of video calls, we might enjoy phone conversations while indulging ourselves, share erotic stories, or discuss our fantasies. Simply letting your partner know you’re thinking of them during your own pleasure can be incredibly stimulating.
While being apart from loved ones can be challenging, making an effort to connect remains vital. My partner and I continually support each other, which includes indulging in some virtual orgasms to bring us closer together.
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In summary, while physical distance can be tough, exploring virtual intimacy can help maintain connections and deepen relationships. By communicating openly and creatively, couples can find ways to bridge the gap and keep the flame alive.