Parenting can often feel like a daunting task, and as a mother of four boys, I can attest to the raised eyebrows and concerned glances that accompany our outings. When we walk into a restaurant, it’s as if we’ve appeared from a tiny clown car, triggering an array of assumptions about our ability to maintain order. The stereotypes surrounding boys and their rambunctious nature only add to the scrutiny, leading people to anticipate chaos.
While there have been instances where we’ve had to step outside with a crying child, this happens to every parent—regardless of the number of children they have. My husband and I have dedicated ourselves to teaching our boys proper behavior in public settings. This has been a continuous learning journey, as children don’t instinctively know how to navigate social etiquette. It’s essential to model these behaviors, like holding doors or using an inside voice, to ensure everyone’s dining experience is pleasant.
Recently, we visited an Italian restaurant that catered more to adults. As we entered, I noticed the usual concerned expressions from fellow diners, seemingly bracing for an eruption of chaos. However, my boys demonstrated politeness by holding the door for me and behaved wonderfully throughout the meal. As we prepared to leave, an elderly couple approached us to express their admiration for our children’s conduct. Their words were akin to receiving a treasure—an affirmation that was incredibly uplifting.
This encounter prompted me to reflect on how infrequently we acknowledge good behavior in children. While criticism flows freely, compliments seem rare. It’s a simple yet powerful gesture to acknowledge a child’s kindness or respectful behavior—it can significantly boost a parent’s morale.
Whether it’s a child gently interacting with animals at a petting zoo or a teenager caring for a younger sibling, these moments deserve recognition. We often forget that parents are navigating their own self-doubt and struggles. A little praise can serve as a reminder that they are on the right track.
For those of us who often second-guess our parenting decisions, hearing that we are raising good kids can be incredibly reassuring. It’s a small act, but its impact is profound. Let’s make it a point to uplift each other as parents whenever we can.
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In summary, let’s be more proactive in complimenting parents and children for their good behavior. It’s a small gesture that can have a big effect on their confidence and sense of accomplishment.