Parenting can be an unpredictable journey, especially when your child does not communicate verbally. The complexity of this situation becomes evident when contrasting the developmental milestones of peers. For instance, at age one, my son was deemed “normal,” and by two, referred to as a “late bloomer.” I always questioned this label. Who defines the timeline for a child’s “blooming”?
By two and a half, while other children were articulating words that made their parents beam with pride, my son remained silent. I often witnessed parents engaging in informal gatherings to discuss their children’s vocabulary advancements. “Ten words!” one parent would boast, while another would whisper, “Five words.” In these moments, I felt the weight of my son’s silence, punctuated by the laughter and chatter of those around us.
Amidst this, I would look down at him. He would gaze up at me with his deep brown eyes, waiting for my attention. I would ask him simple questions, met with silence or small gestures. “Are you hungry?” I would inquire, and he would tug at my bag, making a sound that felt like a small victory.
As he sat next to me, sipping juice, the chaos of the playground unfolded. Two boys jumped on a bridge, causing a little girl to cry. In that moment, I felt my son tense beside me, the sound clearly affecting him. He covered his ears, his expression contorting in distress as he made small whimpering noises, a sound devoid of recognizable words. The parents of the boys glanced over at us, their faces reflecting judgment; their children may have been disruptive, but at least they were “normal.”
Once bedtime arrived, tranquility returned. My son, heavy in my arms, stared silently as I placed him in bed. Later, through the monitor, I would hear him murmur softly in the dark—words only audible to himself, whispered under the guise of solitude.
Mornings often began with a low growl from his bedside, indicating that I had overslept. “Go play, I’ll be up soon,” I would say, only to drift back into sleep. I would awaken again to the sensation of his small, cold hand in mine. Time was elusive; he never announced his wakefulness.
One morning, I was jolted awake by a loud crash. My heart raced as I hurried to the kitchen, where I found my son standing amidst a mess of broken eggs, fear etched across his face. He was paralyzed, his hands still in a position as if he were holding onto something. I quickly scooped him up, enveloping him in comfort. “It’s okay,” I whispered, “You’re safe.”
The cycle of doctor visits and therapy sessions persisted, each trying to label what my son was experiencing. However, only he and I understood the truth—there are simply no words for the struggles we faced together.
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In summary, parenting a non-verbal child is a profound journey filled with challenges and moments of connection that transcend words. The emotional landscape navigated is unique to each family, and understanding comes from the shared experiences and support within the community.