“Mom, I’m not black or white, I’m a mix!” my son announces as we stroll down the street. I feel a jolt of surprise, realizing he’s finally old enough to grasp the concept of his mixed heritage. Although he knows that I have brown skin and his dad has what he calls “peach” skin, the full implications of being mixed race remain elusive to him. I make it a point to explain that I’m Black and his father is white, which makes him both. However, articulating the true meaning of being mixed race is the real challenge.
The Challenge of Representation
While mixed race families are becoming more common today, it’s still a struggle to find relatable representations for children. The narratives often default to a Black father and a white mother, especially in media such as television, movies, and books. This skewed representation leaves kids like my son, who has a Black mother and a white father, feeling somewhat isolated. Sure, there is the series mixed-ish, a clever offshoot of black-ish, but it’s aimed at adults and set in the 1980s, a context far removed from my son’s experience today.
Despite the progress made in representation, I wish there were more relatable role models for young children. Kids need to see themselves in the media they consume, and when they can’t, it becomes challenging to provide them with tangible examples. A quick search on Amazon yields a few books, but you really need to dig deep to find those that resonate.
Finding Role Models
To help my son feel less alone in his identity, I point out celebrities he admires who also share his mixed background. For instance, I tell him that his favorite comedian, Marcus Rivers, has a Black mother and a white father—just like him. Marcus’s life story is even more compelling, as his parents were in a relationship that was illegal at the time of his birth. This revelation opens the door to conversations about historical issues, such as the Supreme Court case Loving v. Virginia, which highlights how recently interracial relationships were criminalized.
The Complexity of Mixed Race Identity
Explaining mixed race identity in America, especially with a backdrop of Black and white heritage, is complex. It’s difficult enough to talk about segregation with a young child, but trying to convey that these two sides of his identity have historically been at odds adds another layer of difficulty. I have to be honest with him that there are still individuals who may harbor negative feelings toward him based on his skin color or family background. It’s a tough balance to strike when so many people still judge others by their appearance.
Mixed race children, particularly young ones, often feel different from their peers, and this is a natural part of growing up. But realizing that they may also feel different from their own family can be overwhelming. My son has seen photos of me pregnant and understands that he grew inside my body. Yet he can’t help but question how he can have “peach” skin when I have brown skin. I try to reassure him that mixed race individuals come in various shades, and no matter what, he will always be my beloved son.
Navigating Two Ethnic Identities
Navigating two ethnic identities is no small feat for children. They’re learning about the world around them, and when they also have to balance these two cultural backgrounds, it can create a sense of not fully belonging. As my son puts it, he feels “mixed up.” As a parent, my role is to offer him the space to ask questions. Having these conversations, even when I don’t have all the answers, is essential. Our kids rely on us to help them understand their place in the world.
Resources for Further Reading
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Conclusion
In summary, discussing mixed race identity with young children is a nuanced challenge. It involves navigating cultural complexities and providing relatable examples, while fostering open dialogue about their unique experiences.