When my cousin was an infant, my aunt found him utterly adorable, so much so that she playfully bit him—not in a harmful way, but out of overwhelming affection. It made me wonder if this tendency to express love through playful aggression runs in families. I’ll admit, I’ve felt the urge to pinch and squeeze my kids during those particularly cute moments. One of my babies was a hefty 10 pounds, and those chubby thighs looked so inviting that I wanted to take a bite! It turns out, my family isn’t alone in this behavior; it’s actually a recognized phenomenon.
Termed “dimorphous expression” by researchers, this instinct to squeeze and cuddle cute creatures is also known as cute aggression. If you’ve ever experienced it, you’re in good company—about half of all people show this trait.
The Research Behind Cute Aggression
Oriana Aragon, PhD, a psychology professor at Clemson University, began investigating dimorphous expression during her graduate studies at Yale. Her research stemmed from a simple premise: people often cry during moments of happiness to help manage the overwhelming nature of those emotions. To balance out intense feelings, our brains naturally seek a contrasting emotional response.
For example, when encountering a ridiculously cute baby, you might feel an urge to exclaim, “I just can’t handle this!” This overwhelming sensation can trigger a desire to squeeze the baby tightly, helping to regulate the emotional “high” and allow you to care for the infant more effectively.
Aragon conducted experiments where participants viewed images of adorable babies and rated their feelings of being overwhelmed by their cuteness. Interestingly, those who found the babies cuter reported stronger feelings of aggression alongside a desire to care for them. I can personally relate to this phenomenon.
The Brain’s Role in Cute Aggression
Katherine Stavropoulos, PhD, from the University of California-Riverside, further explored the brain’s role in cute aggression. Her studies confirmed a connection between feeling overwhelmed, cute aggression, and nurturing behaviors, pinpointing specific brain regions involved in these responses. So, if you ever clench your fists and feel a surge of affection when you see a tiny baby, rest assured it’s just how your brain is wired—it’s science! And if you don’t feel that flutter of joy at the sight of a baby, it doesn’t mean you’re lacking in compassion.
According to Stavropoulos, not feeling cute aggression doesn’t imply a lack of desire to nurture; it simply means you don’t experience that overwhelming sensation. This instinct to care for infants has been passed down through generations, demonstrating our inherent longing to nurture.
The Evolutionary Perspective
Stavropoulos believes cute aggression might have evolutionary roots. A study from 2009 indicated that women shown images of cute babies tended to behave more carefully and deliberately, suggesting the trait may promote caretaking behaviors. After all, a well-cared-for baby is likely to thrive.
Conclusion
So what does this all mean? If you find yourself wanting to squeeze a plump baby or shower them with affection, you’re perfectly normal. And if that urge isn’t part of your experience, that’s completely fine too. We need different kinds of caregivers in the world—those who express love through playful aggression and those who prefer a gentler approach. Both are vital and valuable. Personally, I’m the more aggressive type; if I spot your adorable baby, you might want to steer clear!
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Summary
Cute aggression, the instinct to express affection through playful aggression, is a common and natural response experienced by about 50% of people. Research by Oriana Aragon and Katherine Stavropoulos sheds light on the brain’s role in this phenomenon, linking overwhelming feelings of cuteness to an urge to care for and protect infants. Whether you find yourself wanting to pinch those adorable cheeks or prefer gentle nurturing, both approaches are essential in nurturing our little ones.