A few weeks ago, I posted a picture on social media of my youngest child, who recently turned nine, scaling the top of a tall tree in our yard. Some people expressed surprise, but honestly, he has been climbing this tree for years now. I’ve stopped telling him to “come down” or “don’t go so high,” instead reminding him to make wise decisions. I take pride in his adventurous spirit and willingness to tackle what many deem “risky” activities.
Climbing trees is a classic childhood pastime, akin to playing tag during balmy summer nights or running through sprinklers. For those of us who grew up in the ’80s, these experiences were a staple of our outdoor adventures. Yet, it seems that tree climbing is becoming less common today. Even parents who reveled in such activities during their own childhoods often discourage their kids from doing the same. The image of a young child climbing a tree unsupervised likely sends shivers down many parents’ spines. Some might even label me as irresponsible for allowing my son such freedom.
I believe this hesitance stems from societal pressures and the inherent fears that all parents face—those moments when your heart races, and worst-case scenarios flash through your mind. I’ve found a way to cope with these worries by adopting a more relaxed approach to parenting. I’m fortunate to live in a neighborhood where other parents share similar perspectives. When that anxious feeling grips me as I see my son perched atop a high branch, I often choose to look away.
Moreover, I remind myself that the likelihood of serious injury is quite low. A 2016 study highlighted by Rain or Shine Momma revealed that among 1,600 parents who allowed their children to climb trees, the most common injury reported was minor scrapes. Just 2% indicated their child had broken a bone, and even fewer suffered concussions. In stark contrast, over 3.5 million children in the U.S. under 14 receive medical care annually for injuries related to organized sports.
Yes, you heard that right—organized sports, which many parents promote, pose greater risks than climbing trees. This isn’t just about skinned knees; we’re looking at serious, potentially life-altering injuries, especially in high-impact sports like football. A research study from the University of Washington Medicine’s Sports Health and Safety Institute found that concussion rates in football players aged 5 to 14 are alarmingly high, with 5% of children experiencing a concussion each season.
Reflecting on this, I feel incredibly fortunate. Five years ago, my then-7-year-old son was eager to join a tackle football team, and I faced accusations of being a “dream killer” for my initial refusal. After much deliberation with my partner, we ultimately agreed to let him try it out. Thankfully, just days before the season started, he decided he wasn’t interested after all, which brought me immense relief.
As parents, we set boundaries regarding what we consider unsafe, regardless of our children’s ability to manage risks. We don’t allow our little ones to dash across busy streets or ride bikes without helmets. We teach them about the dangers of substance use as they mature. Each family must establish its own comfort level with risk-taking. However, it’s crucial to consider the facts: climbing trees is statistically safer than participating in organized sports. Yet, I still support my children’s involvement in sports like baseball and basketball.
Beyond the safety aspect, tree climbing and other adventurous activities are beneficial for children’s development. They learn to navigate risks and manage challenges responsibly. By encouraging such play, we communicate trust in their capabilities. This isn’t merely an opinion; scientific research backs it up. Experts endorse the emotional regulation theory of play, which suggests that children learn to handle their emotions through engaging in various activities.
So, take a deep breath, and let your kids climb higher. Stop giving sideways glances at parents who permit their children to partake in activities that induce your anxiety. Resist the urge to yell “be careful” or “don’t go so high.” Instead, cheer them on as they reach new heights—even if it makes you a little uneasy. We shouldn’t wrap our children in bubble wrap; they’ll emerge just fine, and likely better for it.
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In summary, while climbing trees may seem risky, it’s statistically safer than many organized sports and fosters valuable life skills in our children. Embrace the adventure and trust in their capabilities.