I’ve been grappling with the emotions stirred up by a few careless words — words that continue to echo in my mind. They were not substantial, merely a handful of crude characters nestled within an article I wrote about mental well-being, yet they were enough to provoke a whirlwind of feelings. They ignited anger, fear, and a profound sense of disturbance within me. These words transcended mere insensitivity; they were lewd, sexualized, and shockingly violent.
What she needs is a strong man with impressive anatomy. That’ll solve her problems. I’ll cure her depression. (For the record, let me clarify: impressive anatomy does not cure mental health issues, and sex does not “fix” anything related to mental wellness.)
Now, you might expect me to provide some context about the article and myself, as if I somehow warranted such vitriol. Perhaps I was inappropriate or offensive? Maybe his comments had some truth? Or perhaps I just need to let loose? But no — none of that is accurate.
I didn’t do anything wrong. No one deserves to be addressed in such a manner. Regardless of my identity or profession, I shouldn’t have to endure sexual taunts or aggressive language. This kind of discourse is not just damaging; it’s degrading and should never be condoned.
This is the essence of sexism.
I can almost hear the dismissive thoughts from some of you: “You’re overreacting” or “It’s just a joke.” But if these thoughts cross your mind, let me remind you that tolerating this language makes you complicit. Every instance of such remarks, whether spoken or unspoken, contributes to a culture that normalizes discrimination and encourages aggression.
As noted by Everyday Feminism, language that trivializes violence or sexual coercion fosters an environment rife with rape myths, ultimately perpetuating a culture of fear and violence against women.
But I refuse to remain silent. Today, I am addressing you, the anonymous commenter, and others like you.
You may not know me, but I recognize you. I’ve sat in classrooms beside men who share your mindset. I’ve worked with colleagues who exhibit similar attitudes. Your type has been lurking in my life since I blossomed into adulthood, reducing me to mere physical attributes.
You’ve been the ones who’ve leered at me since I developed curves, and you’ve sexualized me since I reached maturity. Logically, I understand that you aren’t the same man who harassed me at 14 or the one who asked me how much I would cost at 16. Yet, you embody the same attitudes as those individuals.
Typically, I wouldn’t engage with men like you or respond to comments of this nature because I know it’s futile. You might hear what I say, but you’d likely scoff or roll your eyes. My time and my voice are valuable.
However, I feel compelled to speak on behalf of countless women who have faced similar aggression. Women who have endured threats of violence, degradation, and sexual coercion in various aspects of their lives. Your words are frightening. Your implied intentions are frightening.
You probably view your comment as just “man talk” or “locker room banter.” But let’s be clear: this is not acceptable. Real men do not communicate in this manner.
So, if you’re still reading, I urge you to think before you speak or type. Consider the implications of your words, not only for me but for the women in your life — your mother, sister, daughter, or friend. Hatred and ignorance don’t look good on anyone.
Sexism is not attractive.
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In summary, the crudeness of certain comments and attitudes towards women is not just offensive — it perpetuates a culture of fear and discrimination. It’s crucial for all of us to be more mindful of our language and the implications it carries.