Dear Fellow Parent at the Playground on Saturday,
I felt compelled to reach out regarding a memorable encounter between our children. You might remember me—I was the dad whose son was proudly wearing a pink dress.
As we arrived at the playground, my son was practically bouncing off the walls with excitement. I asked him, “Are you sure you want to wear that dress?” He enthusiastically replied, “Yes! I want everyone to see how beautiful I am in it!” This was a significant moment for both of us.
He hadn’t previously expressed a desire to wear a dress outside, but I chose not to discourage him. Why would I? Who really cares about societal norms, right?
Once on the playground, his joy was contagious as he twirled and danced around your daughter and her friend, calling out, “Do you like my dress? Can I play with you?” Watching him radiate happiness was a reminder of the beauty of pure, unfiltered joy. It was as if he were a living embodiment of sunshine, a firework bursting in the sky.
Yet, amidst that joy, I couldn’t help but feel a twinge of sadness. Society often stifles such exuberance, making us adults more reserved. When do we, as grown-ups, leap for joy? I worry that, as he grows older, my son may feel pressured to suppress that excitement.
Your daughter and her friend, being a bit older, were less receptive to his enthusiasm. Despite his persistent cheer, they didn’t engage. I recall your daughter saying, “I don’t want to play with a boy in a dress,” and I must admit, I felt a surge of frustration.
However, when she pointed out his dress to you, your response was nothing short of heartwarming: “Well, you’re wearing pants, aren’t you?” Your compassionate reply struck a chord with me. Like you, my primary wish is for my child to be happy, and your acceptance of his choice meant the world.
I know my son might face criticism for his self-expression as he grows, and that thought terrifies me. It’s hard not to want to shield him from the world’s harsh realities. But right now, we focus on nurturing his self-confidence and creativity. He deserves to experience joy unimpeded, even if that means donning a princess dress.
Thank you for your kindness and for promoting acceptance in your own family. You’ve helped me become a better parent by embracing my son’s joy.
Best,
Jake