This morning started like any other: coffee in hand, children awake and ready for the day. I dressed them, checked my work emails, and prepared breakfast. After getting the kids off to school, I took a deep breath, opened my to-do list, and got down to work.
As a freelance writer and parenting blogger, a big part of my role involves moderating comments on my blog. The more my audience grows, the more time I dedicate to filtering out inappropriate remarks. Unfortunately, it seems like online trolls are more active than ever these days—cough current events cough.
This task can be monotonous. Spotting spam accounts is easy, but deciding which comments to delete and which ones to ignore can be tricky. Usually, I steer clear of engaging with those who spread negativity. However, today I feel the urge to speak out, especially after seeing a certain dad’s profile picture.
This man, who had the audacity to make derogatory comments about women, has a daughter. In his profile picture, he beams with pride next to a sweet little girl who is clearly his whole world. This made me pause and wonder if he might be receptive to some reflection.
So, to you, sir—the one who spends time belittling women while raising a daughter—I hope you read this. Although you’ve been banned from my page for your disrespectful comment, I still noticed you. I saw the joy in your eyes as you shared special moments with your daughter; it’s evident she means the world to you.
But here’s my question: how can you be so cruel to women you’ve never met while nurturing such a lovely girl? You might believe these two aspects of your life are separate, but they are intertwined. You think it’s okay to drop a nasty comment online and then go back to tucking your daughter in at night, but that’s simply not true.
By spreading hate and derogatory remarks, you are contributing to a culture that teaches women that their voices don’t matter. Isn’t that exactly what you conveyed to me? “Your voice doesn’t matter.”
Don’t worry about me; I’ve encountered worse than “another mom with nothing to say.” But your daughter? She is impressionable. Do you really want her to internalize such negative ideas about women?
I know many trolls think their comments are harmless fun and that they have no impact on their children. But your attitude shapes the environment your daughter will grow up in. Words carry weight. They echo through time, perpetuating toxic ideas that can affect future generations.
How would you feel if someone spoke those same words to your daughter? The remarks you make could impact her life.
It all boils down to a simple principle: be kind. Spread positivity instead of negativity. Promote love rather than disrespect. It’s not hard to be a decent human being.
But what do I know? I’m just another mom, right? Wrong. I sincerely hope you realize this sooner rather than later—for the sake of your daughter.
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In summary, let’s strive to create a kinder world for our children, where respect and love are the norms, not hatred.