Recently, a friend sent me a snapshot from her family getaway, featuring her elementary-aged kids swimming confidently in the hotel pool. In the corner, I spotted her husband lounging beside her. Her message read, “Look! Our first chance to relax on vacation in years! It’s possible again! You’ll be here soon!” Initially, I felt elated. The idea of lounging poolside while catching up on podcasts sent a thrill through me. After eight years of parenting, constantly juggling a baby or toddler needing my full attention, the thought of enjoying some freedom felt almost magical.
But as I examined the photo further, my excitement faded. There were no tiny feet splashing in the water, no little hands reaching for me, and no swim diapers in sight. After years of navigating the challenges of parenting young children, the prospect of change felt bittersweet. Instead of feeling hopeful about the future, I found myself filled with sadness over what I would miss.
I’ll miss the cozy swaddled babies and their playful antics during bath time. The adorable drunken waddles, the sloppy kisses, and those tiny hands constantly reaching out for me in their pursuit of love and attention. The thought of losing those moments nearly takes my breath away. I need to shift my focus from what I’ll miss to what lies ahead. To kickstart this new mindset, I’ve compiled a list of things to look forward to in the next stage of parenting.
Using the Bathroom Alone
For far too long, I’ve been multitasking in the bathroom—wiping and changing while also retrieving random objects from my toddler’s mouth. The idea of finally using the toilet with both hands free feels as luxurious as a tropical escape. To sit in peace, without the need to explain why my neglected hair looks like a mess, is a dream come true.
Packing Light
Family trips have often required packing like we’re preparing for a month-long expedition. The endless list of “what-ifs” has led me to haul around items to prevent every potential meltdown. A typical day out used to mean dragging along two Pack-N-Plays, countless toys, and enough supplies for a small army. I can’t wait for the day when I can simply grab a bag of snacks and head out the door with ease.
Sleeping Through the Night
While I cherish those sleepy faces that wander into my bed at night, consistent sleep has become a distant memory. I dream of stretching out in bed without worrying about waking the little one who loves to snuggle right up against me. Imagine not tiptoeing around at 2 AM, avoiding creaky floorboards, and being able to wake up without someone reminding me to brush my teeth!
Big Adventures
Amusement parks, long flights, and late-night concerts have been too complicated with little ones. I’ve often felt guilty about the experiences my older kids have missed. But when the day comes that we can all enjoy these outings together—without the need for swim diapers or floaties—it’s going to be exhilarating. Our family will be ready to embrace the adventure, and I can’t wait!
More Time as a Couple
Once upon a time, my husband and I enjoyed plenty of alone time after our first child arrived. Now, finding a babysitter feels like a monumental task, especially with our high-energy crew. However, the day will come when our eldest can take charge of the younger siblings, allowing us to enjoy a quiet dinner together. Reconnecting as a couple will undoubtedly strengthen our relationship and help us recharge.
So, even though I’ll miss certain aspects of my current life, there are beautiful moments on the horizon. While the next chapter may be different, it holds the promise of joy. I’ll strive to embrace this new phase with excitement and see what surprises await me.
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Summary
The author reflects on the bittersweet feelings of watching children grow up and the longing for past moments while embracing the exciting opportunities of upcoming parenting stages. From the freedom of bathroom breaks to the joy of family adventures and couple time, there’s much to look forward to despite the inevitable changes.