One of the most impactful individuals in my life is just 7 years old. I’ve known her since she was still in her mother’s womb, and she affectionately refers to me as her big brother—a title I cherish. We share fun outings to places like the zoo, ice cream parlors, and the movies. I have a blast spoiling her with treats before returning her to her parents, who probably appreciate my sugar rush contributions!
Throughout the years, she has keenly observed my long-standing single status and has taken it upon herself to “fix” my love life. Without any encouragement from me, she has consistently offered me her amusing and surprisingly insightful advice about relationships. Her wisdom is often more valuable than the misguided suggestions I receive from well-meaning adult friends. I’ve been jotting down her thoughts since she was just 4 years old. While others might pay hefty fees for a life coach, I simply take walks in the park with a clever 7-year-old who puts me in my place.
Here are some of her best pieces of advice:
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Kid: Always apologize.
Me: What if I haven’t done anything wrong?
Kid: Trust me, you did. Just say you’re sorry; it’ll be easier for you! - Kid: Pay attention to her! Remember, you’re dating her, not your job!
- Kid: Look for someone who shares your interests so you can enjoy them together.
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Kid: Are you going to marry her?!
Me: What do you think?
Kid: No! I don’t like her with you. She’s mean, and you shouldn’t love someone who’s mean to you. (This insight was spot on; the relationship was unhealthy, and she was the only one to call it out.) -
Kid: You need to find someone to love.
Me: Why?
Kid: Because everyone deserves somebody special! -
Kid: Why don’t you have a girlfriend?
Me: I’m not sure; what do you think?
Kid: (looking me over) Maybe because you like Star Wars and they don’t! -
Kid: You definitely need a girlfriend!
Me: Why’s that?
Kid: Because you don’t have one, silly! -
Kid: I know you probably won’t marry, but if you did, I’d get a sister-in-law, right?
Me: Who said I’m not getting married?!
Kid: You did! Answer me!
Me: Yes, you would get a sister-in-law.
Kid: (groans) I want a brother-in-law. Can’t you just marry a boy? -
Me: How do I understand emojis?
Kid: Show them to me; I’ll know! -
Kid: Are you dating the girl who gave me that lemon bar?
Me: You mean Emily?
Kid: Yeah! Are you dating her?
Me: No, she’s just a friend.
Kid: You should marry her! She’s nice and loves you.
This child’s advice comes every time we meet, and she frequently mentions Emily. While she might be a bit too eager about suggesting marriage (possibly due to that unforgettable lemon bar), she has a point—sometimes I let promising connections slip away because I fear being vulnerable or losing a friendship. Perhaps I need to take more risks. After all, you can’t move forward in life without taking a leap.
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In summary, the wisdom of a 7-year-old can reveal profound truths about love and relationships, reminding us all that taking risks is essential for growth, both in dating and in life.