While I can’t speculate on the chaos of living with a menagerie of fifty cats or the complications of having an extra nose, I’m well-versed in the trials of raising a household full of boys. My children are still quite young, so I haven’t yet faced the tumult of hormonal teenagers, but even my little guys present their own special set of challenges. You may have seen previous tips for boy moms, but here are ten more realities that come with the territory of raising sons.
1. Embrace the Noise
If I had a dollar for each time I’ve had to shush my boys or remind them to use their “indoor voice,” I’d be sipping cocktails on a beach somewhere. Little boys are inherently loud, and even standing close together, they feel the need to shout. Their excitement knows no bounds, and let’s not forget that their toys join in on the racket too!
2. Goodbye Gender-Neutrality
In my quest to raise well-rounded boys, I’ve stocked up on dolls, kitchen sets, and other traditionally feminine toys. I’ve preached that colors have no gender, but as they grow, my boys gravitate towards classic “boy” activities and shun anything they deem “girly.” It’s a reality I’ve come to accept.
3. Rough Play is a Given
One boy can be rambunctious enough, but put him with friends, and you have a recipe for a wrestling match. They tackle and shove, often losing track of their surroundings and damaging your belongings in the process. My walls and furniture can attest to the aftermath of their playdates.
4. Frequent ER Visits
The adage about kids being expensive is an understatement. With boys, you’ll find yourself budgeting for injuries like concussions, broken bones, and various gashes. You’ll learn to keep a stockpile of Neosporin and gauze handy, and you may even begin to dread the sight of your children approaching with a fresh scrape.
5. Weapons are Everywhere
Boys have an uncanny ability to turn just about anything into a weapon. My resolve to keep my first son away from toy guns crumbled when he discovered the fun of a water gun. Now, my home is filled with makeshift weapons crafted from everyday items. Even if you banish the toys, creativity will find a way!
6. Say Goodbye to Girly Dreams
I once dreamed of sharing my wedding dress or journals with a daughter, but it’s clear my boys aren’t interested in those traditions. It’s essential to come to terms with the fact that, without daughters, those experiences will likely remain just dreams. Yet, what’s more frustrating is when people assume I’m somehow missing out because I only have sons.
7. The Pressure is Real
As a mom of boys, there’s a significant weight on my shoulders to raise them into respectful, kind individuals. However, figuring out the right approach is tricky, especially when there’s no manual. I often find myself learning through trial and error, hoping that my efforts will yield good results in their future relationships.
8. Stains are a Constant Battle
Keeping boys’ clothes clean is like trying to remain dry while jumping into a pool. From mud to blood, the stains come in droves. You might find yourself investing in a plethora of stain removal products, but no amount of effort guarantees a spotless outcome.
9. Boy Clothing is Dull
While boy clothes are generally easy to mix and match, they lack the variety and flair found in girls’ fashion. Accessorizing is virtually nonexistent, leaving little room for creativity in their wardrobe. You may find yourself wishing for more exciting options.
10. Some Things Are Beyond Understanding
I can support my boys emotionally and guide them through life, but there are aspects of being male that I’ll never fully grasp. The mysteries of their anatomy can leave me fumbling for answers. When they have questions that I can’t relate to, sometimes the best response is simply, “Ask your dad.”
In summary, being a mom to boys comes with its unique set of challenges, from navigating their loud antics to dealing with endless stains and the pressure to raise them right. Each day brings a new adventure, and while it can be overwhelming, embracing these realities makes the journey worthwhile.
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