When my daughter began preschool, I was taken aback by their unique approach to sharing. As I was filling out forms, the staff explained their policy: if a child was engaged with a toy, they weren’t obligated to share it just because another child asked. They could choose to share, but if they weren’t ready to relinquish it, they could simply say “no.”
This concept rattled my childhood beliefs. Growing up in the ’80s and ’90s, I was raised with the mantra of “You must share!” ingrained in me. I remember being shocked when the preschool shared that since implementing this policy, there was a significant decrease in bickering, tattling, and general chaos among the children.
Rethinking the Concept of Sharing
Think about it: imagine you’re settled in your favorite coffee shop, about to dive into work on your laptop. Suddenly, a stranger approaches and demands to take a turn on your computer. You’d likely respond with a firm “no.” If the barista intervened, demanding you relinquish your laptop, it would feel absurd. So why do we enforce sharing among our kids so rigidly?
While it’s essential to teach children the value of sharing, it shouldn’t come at the expense of their autonomy. We promote boundaries and understanding that sometimes it’s okay to say “no.” I want my kids to become adults who can assess situations and understand that their time and belongings are valuable.
Finding a Balance
Of course, I’m not advocating for a lack of sharing entirely. There are public spaces, like playgrounds, where sharing is non-negotiable. If my child is hogging the swings, I’ll certainly encourage them to let others take a turn. However, I’m more focused on teaching my kids the importance of boundaries and the reality that life rarely feels fair.
If my kids grasp that they won’t always get what they want, they’ll be better equipped for college, work, and relationships. The preschool’s approach made me wonder: what if we all adopted a similar philosophy on sharing? Perhaps it would cultivate more empathetic individuals, reducing tantrums and fostering understanding among peers.
Encouraging Empathy Over Obligation
Ultimately, my goal is to help my children develop empathy rather than become pushovers. If they have an abundance of something, sharing should come naturally—not as a forced obligation. This aligns with the idea that giving can be fulfilling, as kids inherently know. It’s about encouragement rather than compulsion.
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Conclusion
In summary, teaching children about sharing while respecting their boundaries can lead to healthier relationships and a more empathetic society. By allowing them to understand that not everything is fair, we prepare them for the realities of life.