I recently had a heart-to-heart with my longtime friend, Sarah. I confided in her about my worries that my sarcasm and outspoken nature might be too much for some people. Her response reminded me why we’ve been inseparable for nearly three decades. “That’s the same person I shared a dorm with for four years, and I wouldn’t want you any other way. Stay true to yourself!” She knows me well and loves me for it, understanding that at 41, I’m unlikely to change—nor would she want me to.
Chances are, you don’t need to change either. Authentic friendships should allow you to be yourself without fear. Here are some essential qualities that define the friends every mom needs:
Moms need friends who embrace their true selves.
It’s exhausting to maintain a facade just to avoid discomfort. Real friends create an environment where you can fully express your messy life without fear of judgment.
Moms need friends who can dream big yet keep it real.
We often talk about glamorous girls’ weekends filled with heels and cocktails, but let’s be honest—most of the time, we’re just happy to lounge in pajamas and snack on junk food. Next time, we might actually wear those heels… or not.
Moms need friends who don’t mind the unglamorous moments.
Whether it’s an early morning or a late-night chat (okay, maybe around 9 p.m.), sometimes you need to see your bestie in her oversized tee, sans makeup.
Moms need friends who make them laugh.
Life can be overwhelming—parenting, work, and everything in between. A friend who can bring joy, even for a fleeting moment, is priceless. If you can make me laugh until I cry, you’ve found a place in my heart forever.
Moms need friends who communicate openly.
If I’ve upset you in any way, please tell me directly, not gossip to someone else. We don’t have time for intermediaries like Nancy from down the street.
Moms need friends who uplift them.
Whether it’s encouraging me to indulge in another cup of coffee or reminding me that I can tackle new challenges, I cherish those who push me to embrace my potential.
Moms need friends who have their back.
If someone is badmouthing a friend in my presence, you can bet I’ll stand up for her. No one messes with my circle.
Moms need friends who acknowledge that kids can misbehave, too.
Every kid has their moments, and if you think yours is perfect, then this friendship might not work.
Moms need friends who exhibit good sportsmanship.
No matter whose kid is playing, being a jerk on the sidelines reflects poorly on you. We prefer authentic friendships over petty drama.
Moms need friends who keep it real about appearances.
Honesty is key—if my jeans are unflattering or if there’s something stuck in my teeth, I rely on friends to tell me.
Moms need friends who understand that texting is just fine.
If you only hear from me via text and never get a call, that’s okay. Just know that during any emergency call, I might need to pause for a bathroom break, and I hope you won’t judge!
Moms need friends who stand by them during tough times.
When life gets challenging, it’s the friends who stick around that truly matter. They’ll be the ones helping you navigate through the storm.
Moms need friends who don’t mind sharing food.
Sometimes I order a salad but secretly want your nachos. If you scrape some frosting off your dessert, I hope you won’t mind if I sample it, fingers and all (though I promise not to lick salt off your margarita glass!).
In summary, moms need friends who are genuine, supportive, and willing to embrace life’s messiness together. They should celebrate your uniqueness and stand by you through thick and thin. If you’re interested in exploring more about home insemination, check out this resource to learn about options that might resonate with your journey.