As we navigate the complexities of aging, society often presents a rigid narrative: cut your hair, ditch the miniskirts, and embrace kale smoothies. Yet, the vibrant in-between gets overlooked. Turning 40 doesn’t mean we become dull or lose our charm; rather, it’s a time of blossoming into our true selves. We embrace life with a bit more sass, perhaps indulge in a few more risqué shades of lipstick, and certainly enjoy our intimate lives more fully.
Reflecting on a moment from a decade ago, I recall a group of women, all in our 30s, working together in a challenging after-school program. Each of us had unique backgrounds—some married, others single, but all ambitious and enthusiastic about our work. One day, Justin Timberlake’s “SexyBack” played in the office, and while many shared the sentiment that we might be “too old” for such music, I was struck by the absurdity of age restrictions on enjoyment. Why should certain things, like music, be off-limits because of age?
There are experiences and items that transcend age, that simply resonate with our inner confidence. For instance, I have a T-shirt that, while simple, fits perfectly and highlights my figure in all the right ways. On even the most challenging days, slipping it on makes me feel radiant.
Here are a few more things that enhance my sense of beauty and confidence, regardless of age:
- A Crisp White Shirt: Whether it’s a classic button-down or a casual tee, a white shirt signifies effortless elegance—a reminder of the timeless styles of Ralph Lauren and Bruce Springsteen.
- My Favorite Jeans: A few years back, I splurged on a pair of jeans that fit like a dream. They were slightly distressed and hugged me in all the right places. Their gradual wear has only added character, reminding me of my youthful days idolizing Bon Jovi and Cindy Crawford.
- The Black Crowes’ ‘Hard to Handle’: This song never fails to energize me. I might misquote the lyrics, but that doesn’t stop me from belting it out, feeling youthful and vibrant with every note.
- A Great Hair Day: There’s no shame in admitting that a perfect hair day can turn my mood around. Whether it’s the way a few strands frame my face or unexpected curls, it adds a spark to my day.
- Polished Toenails: It’s the little things, like my bright red or shimmery silver toenails, that remind me I’m taking time for myself. It’s a personal treat that doesn’t require approval from anyone else.
- Next-Day Looks: After an intimate night with my partner, there’s a certain glow—a shared understanding that lingers the next day. It’s a reminder of our connection, one that makes the ordinary feel extraordinary.
Ultimately, it’s clear that what makes us feel attractive and fulfilled defies age. We shouldn’t allow societal norms to dictate what’s “age-appropriate” for us. And while I’m still coming around to the idea of enjoying kale smoothies, I know that confidence and beauty are timeless.
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In summary, and despite the pressures of age, embracing the little joys that make us feel beautiful and confident is essential. It’s these moments and experiences that shape our true essence, and they are ageless.