Back in 2012, after being let go from my job in publishing, I was ready for a fresh start. The exhausting daily commute of three hours round-trip from my home in Long Island to the city, often with an elbow crammed into my side, was stealing precious moments away from my family. Initially, I thought I’d find a job closer to home, but fate had other plans. Fast forward six years, and I realize I had no clue what this journey would entail.
My career kicked off in magazine publishing while I was still in college. I completed a 6-credit internship at a popular magazine and was offered a position just three weeks later. For over a decade, I thrived at Wenner Media, known for titles like Rolling Stone and Men’s Journal. I loved the hustle, but that commute was a real drag. The day I was laid off, I felt a strange mix of shock and excitement.
A year prior to my layoff, I had started crafting custom photo mats for friends as thoughtful gifts. Within days of losing my job, I launched my Etsy shop, KJ Frames, and I’ve been creating frames in my basement office ever since.
Freedom from Appearance Standards
One of the best perks? Nobody cares how I look! I can roll out of bed and skip the shower without a second thought. The other moms at the bus stop don’t bat an eye, and I can assure you that the staff at craft stores or grocery stores don’t either. I’ve embraced the leggings lifestyle wholeheartedly. However, if I go too long without caring about my appearance, I risk reverting to my college days. Taco Bell at 3 p.m. in pajamas? Why not! But is this how adults are supposed to act?
My Trusty Refrigerator
Ah, my refrigerator—my loyal companion. She keeps my food chilled and ready, but she also knows all my dirty little secrets. Since I tend to indulge a bit too much, I’ve gained around 20 pounds over the years. Could I change my habits? Sure. Do I want to? Not at the moment.
The Drink Dilemma
Another indulgence? Wine. When I was a working professional, it was a rare treat. Now, my life as a home-based entrepreneur means more nights in with a glass (or two) of wine. Being my own boss gives me the flexibility to enjoy it, especially since my main responsibility is just getting the kids out the door in the morning. Add in my eating habits, and well, let’s just say those leggings are getting tighter!
The Boss of My Own Business
Owning my own business is a double-edged sword. The flexibility and extra income are fantastic, but now I’m my own IT support, printer technician, and accountant—all roles I’m not exactly trained for. I transitioned from a vibrant office filled with talented individuals to a tiny basement office where I often find myself talking to the walls. Quite the shift!
From Financial Contributor to Homebody
Once the primary breadwinner, I now sometimes feel like a financial burden. Sure, my business adds to our income, but I’m no miracle worker like those entrepreneurial legends. While my husband and I share our resources, I can’t help but feel the weight of not contributing as I once did. My spontaneous shopping trips at fancy stores have been replaced by thrifty finds at discount shops—love you, TJ Maxx!
Time: The Most Valuable Gift
The biggest gain from this lifestyle shift? Time. Time with my children, my husband, and the freedom to explore what I want to do next. I cherish being able to prepare lunches, see my kids off to the bus, and engage in their classrooms. This time is invaluable, and I recognize how rare it is, even if I sometimes look like a zombie from a comedy movie when I wake up each day.
Having experienced both sides of the working mom and stay-at-home mom spectrum, it’s clear that there are trade-offs no matter which path you choose. What truly matters is ensuring your children are safe, loved, and that your wine supply is well-stocked.
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In summary, being a stay-at-home mom is a mix of freedom, challenges, and invaluable time with family. Each experience is unique, but the love and care for our kids remain paramount.