Parenting
The Many Faces of a Tween Girl
by Jamie
Updated: Aug. 8, 2017
Originally Published: Dec. 12, 2015
Navigating life with a tween girl can feel like an expedition through a jungle of personalities. As I approach the twelve-year mark with my daughter, I’ve come to realize that she embodies not just one, but seven distinct personalities, each with its own unique quirks. Here’s a glimpse into the eclectic mix living within her:
- The Bestie (Age: 35–40)
This persona is a delightful companion who enjoys spa days and latte chats (always on my dime). When she appears, it’s like a breath of fresh air, and I cherish every moment. - The Darling (Age: 6)
A sweet little soul, this version of my daughter is full of hugs and kisses. She often climbs beside me on the couch to share her affection. Sadly, her visits are infrequent, making them all the more precious. - The Mischief Maker (Age: Unknown)
This twin, lurking in the shadows, often makes her presence known in the late afternoon. She may look like the Bestie or the Darling, but her words can cut like a knife, sending me screaming for the nearest exit. Beware; she may also strike unexpectedly in the mornings. - The Know-It-All (Age: 11–20)
This personality is self-sufficient and confident, often responding with the two words every parent dreads: “I know.” Her independence is impressive but can be quite the challenge. - The Grown-Up (Age: 18–22)
When this mature young woman graces us with her presence, chores are completed without reminders, and she engages in adult conversations in ways that almost make me proud to be her parent. Unfortunately, she’s a rare visitor. - The Baby (Age: 3–5)
Often mistaken for the Drama Queen, this little one believes every minor scrape is a life-threatening crisis. I once received a panicked request to visit the emergency room because her hair got tangled. - The Drama Queen (Age: 10–20)
Similar to the Baby but even more dramatic, this personality can turn any minor inconvenience into a catastrophe. No clean jeans? The world is ending. Can’t find her hairbrush? Disaster. It’s essential to note that she can swiftly morph into the Mischief Maker without warning.
These are the varied personas residing within my daughter’s psyche—at least for today. As she transitions into her twelfth year, I’m bracing myself for any new arrivals.
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In conclusion, raising a tween is a whirlwind of experiences and emotions, each day unveiling a new layer of their personality.