Every year, my daughter, Lily, has one wish for her birthday and Christmas—she longs for a sister. In fact, she seems to ask for a sister on every gift-giving holiday. This tradition began when she was just three years old, and now, as she approaches her twelfth birthday, her desire remains unchanged.
I’ve explained to her that adding another child to our family isn’t an option; my days of childbearing are behind me. Plus, who knows if she would end up with another brother? “I don’t care,” she insists. “I just want a baby!” Thankfully, I can remind her that she has a whole bunch of cousins to play with, and most of them live nearby.
Lily has six cousins within a 10-mile radius, a seventh about half an hour away, and two who travel from across the country to visit for a few weeks each year. We make it a point to maximize their time together, packing in as many memories as possible during those brief visits.
In my opinion, having a plethora of cousins around is far better than having an extra sibling. My sisters and I can trade kids without the constant burden of parenting, and the older cousins often entertain the younger ones—keeping everyone content.
Growing up, I didn’t have the same experience. While I had siblings, I lacked a close relationship with my cousins due to limited interactions with extended family. As an adult, I often wish I had forged earlier connections. Witnessing the bond my kids share with their cousins is heartwarming. It is a connection that holds deep meaning for both them and for my sisters and me. There’s something truly special about seeing your children grow alongside the kids of someone you cherish.
Last weekend, my sister Emma and her three children came over for a fun-filled day. We indulged in delicious food and lit 120 sparklers. We let the kids stay up late, enjoy way too much candy, and run around wildly—it was amazing. The joy on their faces was priceless, and it’s comforting to know that we can create such memories repeatedly, not just on holidays or during vacations.
Having Lily grow up with her cousins, my beloved nieces and nephews, is an invaluable gift. It allows them to create precious moments with kids who understand family dynamics and can relate to our quirks. The best part? They don’t see each other often enough to become annoyed with one another like siblings might. Instead, they eagerly anticipate their time together, granting the adults some much-needed moments of peace to catch up without the chaos of sibling squabbles in the background.
Lily and her cousins share a bond that transcends mere friendship. They connect through family history, mannerisms, and adorable quirks, and they bear striking resemblances to one another. It’s fascinating to see so many traits mirrored between my kids and my sisters’ children.
Cousins are clever in their own way—they know just how to play off their parents’ weaknesses. When they band together, they often receive more leniency than if they were alone with their own parents. I secretly enjoy when they do this; it shows just how comfortable they feel with each other.
Honestly, I prefer having my niece or nephew stay over rather than one of Lily’s friends. They already understand my boundaries, and I don’t need to put on a facade when they get a bit rambunctious. They know Aunt Sophie isn’t fond of excessive noise and expects them to tidy up after themselves, which makes everything easier.
This fall, Lily’s wish is partially coming true—my sister is expecting a baby girl! We can’t wait to welcome her into the family. She will be showered with love and have seven incredible cousins who will be her lifelong friends.
In summary, having cousins nearby enriches the lives of our children in ways that siblings may not. It fosters deep connections, joyful memories, and the freedom for parents to relax while kids play. The bonds formed with cousins provide a unique support system that every child deserves.
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