Since embracing motherhood, I’ve embarked on a mission to connect with fellow new moms. I’ve participated in mom groups, attended baby music classes, and even joined a women’s group at a local church, despite not being a parishioner. As I navigate the whirlwind of new motherhood, I find myself yearning for companionship with women who truly understand the chaos that comes with it. I want to share experiences about my overflowing milk supply and my baby’s diaper escapades. I often find myself asking, “Is this normal!?” to those who can relate to the exhaustion and overwhelming love that motherhood brings.
However, during this journey to form connections with other moms, I’ve unintentionally distanced myself from my childless friends. It’s not because they lack understanding, but rather because I’ve been in survival mode, trying to figure it all out. While I cherish the friendships I’ve developed with fellow mothers, I’ve come to realize how crucial my childless girlfriends are now more than ever.
1. They Help Me Remember Who I Am
I’ve become known primarily as “Mommy,” the one who is always on diaper duty and can barely stay awake past 8:30 PM. My girlfriends remind me that I’m also Emily, the fun-loving, wine-drinking friend who enjoys a good laugh and the occasional inappropriate joke (and who, let’s be honest, has never been great at staying up late anyway).
2. They Listen Without Judgment
When I vent to my mom friends, they often offer advice like “It’ll get better” or suggest various methods for sleep training. Sometimes, though, I simply need a friend to hear me out, pour me a drink, and say, “Wow, that sounds tough.”
3. They’re Great Baby Holders
Spending time with my mom friends is fulfilling, but it doesn’t offer a true break from motherhood. In contrast, my childless friends are eager to cuddle my baby. Watching them embrace my little one brings a tear to my eye (and yes, the wine adds to the emotion).
4. They Ground Me
Recently, a fellow mom and I were fretting about how our 5-month-olds can’t sign yet. When I mentioned this to my childless friends, they promptly set me straight, reminding me that such milestones are not the end of the world.
5. They Keep My Wardrobe in Check
As a mom, I’ve learned not to judge anyone’s appearance. If you’re rocking sweatpants and a messy bun, you do you! However, my girlfriends encourage me to dress up occasionally, reminding me of the woman I was before baby. They’ve even joked about taking action if I ever consider wearing mom jeans or cargo capris.
6. They Don’t Critique My Parenting Choices
My childless friends don’t care whether I practice attachment parenting, co-sleeping, or any other method. They provide a judgment-free zone where I can simply be myself.
Spending time with my childless girlfriends allows me to unwind, enjoy a drink, and reconnect with the person I am beyond just being a mother. For those exploring the journey to motherhood, resources like this guide on treating infertility can be invaluable. If you’re considering starting a family, check out the at-home insemination kit for practical advice. And for expert insights, visit Millie Clinic for authoritative information.
In summary, maintaining friendships with childless girlfriends is essential for new moms. These relationships provide a much-needed balance, allowing mothers to reconnect with their identities while enjoying the support and understanding of friends who offer an escape from the challenges of parenting.