Updated: April 7, 2021
Originally Published: June 11, 2020
Anxiety has been a fundamental part of my life for as long as I can remember. As a child, adults would often describe me as an old soul or a worrywart; however, what I was truly grappling with was a significant anxiety disorder that I struggled to articulate. I vividly recall lying awake at six years old, consumed by worries about things beyond my control. By fifth grade, the stress had escalated to the point where I experienced my first panic-induced illness.
Throughout my life, anxiety has been a constant companion. It reached a peak during my twenties, leading me to work closely with a healthcare professional to manage my symptoms. While I’ve made substantial progress in identifying my triggers, there are still moments when anxiety overwhelms me, despite my best efforts to maintain equilibrium.
During those challenging times, my partner’s calm and composed demeanor provides me with the support I so desperately need. His ability to remain steadfast amid my panic has been invaluable. Over the seventeen years we’ve been together, I’ve never seen him lose his cool. When crises arise, he maintains a level-headed approach, addressing the situation without becoming flustered. While he certainly feels stress, he doesn’t allow it to consume him. He skillfully breaks down complex problems into manageable pieces, finding pathways forward, which is a perspective I’m not accustomed to.
Not only does he shine in emergencies, but he also embodies a steady, no-stress attitude in everyday life. When unexpected challenges arise, I often spiral into panic, while he stays grounded, methodically determining our next steps. My mind conjures up worst-case scenarios, whereas his instincts guide him to perceive the situation rationally.
His tranquil nature serves as an anchor, preventing my anxiety from spiraling out of control. With his support, I can halt a panic attack before it escalates, allowing my heart rate to stabilize and my body to relax.
It’s important to note that he isn’t disconnected from his emotions. He possesses a deep sensitivity and can articulate his feelings with ease. He understands how to navigate stressful situations and, once things settle, he reflects on his own emotions throughout the ordeal. He is my rock during my turbulent times, and he knows that I will reciprocate that support when I’m back on solid ground, ready to listen to his feelings of fear or frustration.
However, being married to someone with such a consistent demeanor can also be challenging. He rarely reacts strongly, regardless of the situation. If someone were to knock on our door with a million-dollar check, his response would be a calm grin and a simple, “No way!” No jumping for joy or shouting—just his steady self.
At times, I wish for a bit more enthusiasm from him, wondering what it would be like to be with someone who matches my emotional intensity. But that’s not who he is; while my emotions may fluctuate wildly, he maintains a consistent calm. Though his demeanor can be frustrating at times, I recognize that it’s precisely what makes him perfect for me.
I was fortunate to find this stabilizing force in my life. When we first met as teenagers, I had no idea that my anxiety would become so pronounced in our marriage. Yet, I fell into a love that suits me perfectly.
For anyone grappling with anxiety or stress, finding a support person with a calming presence can be immensely beneficial. This support doesn’t have to come from a partner; it can also be a parent, friend, counselor, or spiritual advisor. The key is to identify someone who can maintain calmness when you need it most. My best friend and my sister also play crucial roles in my support system.
Anxiety often leads my mind to perceive danger even in safe environments. It’s like a monster lurking beneath the bed. Thankfully, I have a partner whose calm presence enables me to cope with my anxiety, making a significant difference in my life.
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Summary
Anxiety can feel overwhelming, but having a calm support person can make a significant difference. Whether it’s a partner, friend, or family member, finding someone who can maintain their composure during stressful times can help those struggling with anxiety cope more effectively.