On the day my daughter tragically passed away from SIDS, I stood on the chilly hospital floor, engulfed in a whirlwind of pain. My chest ached, I felt nauseous, and I experienced blurred vision and shortness of breath. These symptoms are typical responses to trauma and overwhelming grief, yet amidst a bustling emergency room filled with medical professionals, no one thought to inquire about my physical state.
Just over a day later, I found myself at my OB’s office, voicing my concern that I might be experiencing a heart attack due to the intensity of my pain. Unsurprisingly, my blood pressure readings were alarmingly high. The nurse practitioner encouraged me to stay, offering crackers and water, and advised me to lay on my side to help manage the situation.
The stark contrast between my experiences at the two facilities left me frustrated. How could the hospital that delivered such devastating news fail to provide any resources for coping with my new reality? In a fortunate twist, my visit to the OB’s office turned out to be a beacon of hope. Even though I didn’t see my usual doctor, the nurse practitioner offered her personal contact information, a detailed list of symptoms to watch for, anxiety medication to help me through panic attacks, and a compilation of local resources for parents dealing with child loss.
During that half-hour drive home, I couldn’t shake the thought that support like this should be standard for everyone grieving a loss. In those fragile initial days, the bereaved can face an array of alarming physical symptoms, including chest pains, severe headaches, dizziness, and even suicidal thoughts.
Research indicates that individuals who are grieving are significantly more likely to experience heart attacks shortly after a loss. A cardiovascular study revealed that bereaved individuals are 21 times more likely to suffer a heart attack within the first 24 hours of a loss and six times more likely in the first week. Murray Mittleman, a preventative cardiologist from Harvard Medical School, emphasizes the importance of recognizing this heightened risk during the grieving process.
Jessica Lawson, a licensed mental health counselor, explains that grief elevates cortisol levels, impacting various bodily functions, including metabolism and blood pressure. These emotional stressors can lead to a host of physical health issues. Beyond the risk of heart attacks, grief can weaken the immune system and trigger new health conditions.
Unfortunately, there are no standardized protocols for addressing the mental and physical health needs of those who are grieving, which can lead to a lack of preventative care. Following my daughter’s death, I unexpectedly found myself falling ill more often, culminating in two surgeries and a recent diagnosis of high blood pressure.
This is the often-overlooked physical toll of grief: frequent illnesses, chills, night sweats, extreme fatigue, and a series of new diagnoses. The healthcare system frequently fails to educate providers about these symptoms, attributing them solely to emotional pain.
However, with a support system, therapy, and a collaborative treatment plan, those who are grieving can positively influence their mental and physical health. Early intervention is crucial, whether it’s addressing acute symptoms or maintaining regular check-ins throughout the grieving process. Understanding the physiological aspects of grief is essential for effective treatment.
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In summary, the physical and emotional impacts of grief can be profound and often overlooked, highlighting the need for better support systems and education in healthcare.