I felt an overwhelming sense of joy as I left the hospital the day after my daughter, Emma, was born. It was my first time staying at that well-known institution, and I longed to be home, free from the constant interruptions of nurses checking my vitals and the relentless squeezing of the blood pressure cuff. Surrounded by Luke and his family, who were cooing over our peacefully sleeping baby, I hurriedly packed our belongings; it was time to head home.
Upon our return in the late afternoon, everything seemed fine. Emma was peacefully resting in the Pack and Play set up in our room, while Luke and I exchanged glances that seemed to say, “So… what now?” Surely, this would be easy, right?
The details of that first night are hazy—I doubt many mothers can recall specifics—but one vivid memory remains: sitting on the couch with both Emma and me in tears, I repeatedly uttered, “I can’t do this. I can’t do this. Please, take her back.”
I loved my daughter and was thrilled she was here, outside of the confines of my body. Yet, fear consumed me. I was paralyzed with anxiety, unsure of what “this” even entailed, but convinced I was unfit for the task.
I had never cared for a baby before. I had no clue what I was doing or what I should be doing. There was no guidebook to read. It felt akin to having driven in a car for ten months, then being handed the keys to my own vehicle with no prior experience behind the wheel. No one would allow that kind of recklessness, and yet, here I was, entrusted to bring this precious life home without any preparation.
The realization that I was responsible for raising this newborn felt absurd. How could anyone believe I was capable? That first night, I felt lost and alone, without a map, and terrified that I wouldn’t be able to navigate the journey of motherhood. I wished for someone who knew what they were doing to take over.
I made it through that night. And the next. Now, Emma is nearly two and a half years old. That fear of inadequacy still follows me, like a pesky chihuahua nipping at my heels with every misstep. Motherhood has proven to be more challenging than I ever imagined. There are still moments when I think, “I can’t do this.” But I no longer think, “You have to go back,” as I did that first night.
She is my daughter, my firstborn, my spirited little girl with bright blue eyes. She brings me joy, and I know deep down that she is meant to be with me. Although I still feel uncertain and unsteady on this path of motherhood, when I tuck her into her big girl bed and hear her say, “I love you, Mom,” I realize that no one could care for her better than I can.
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In summary, while the journey of motherhood can be overwhelming and filled with moments of doubt, the love and connection shared with your child can ultimately provide the reassurance needed to embrace the challenges ahead.