The Enchantment of Two Decades Together

By: Emily Thompson

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I embarked on a romantic journey with my husband when we were just 19, navigating the world as college students. Our first argument was memorable—he dramatically threw himself into a snowbank, making me laugh uncontrollably and solidifying my affection for him. Fast forward 20 years, and it’s astonishing how long we’ve been together.

We’ve faced various challenges, from times when we couldn’t stand each other, resulting in door-slamming and mirror-shattering fights, to moments filled with laughter so intense that we nearly toppled from our chairs. We’ve had days where we drifted past each other, lost in our own routines, communicating only through sleepy grunts before our morning coffee. We’ve shared moments of despair, like the time we watched our youngest child repeatedly throw up after an unfortunate encounter with a rock. We’ve experienced the exhaustion of early mornings, questioning whether we have the energy to face another day.

Yet, through all these experiences, I recognize that he is my person—my wonderfully flawed, slightly domineering, brilliantly funny partner who can burp like a champion.

Revelations from Our Journey

Here are some revelations I never anticipated when I first spotted that quirky guy in a red baseball cap, armed with a super soaker and a mischievous grin:

1. One day, we would communicate just by exchanging glances.
2. We would hurl countless hurtful words at each other over time, learning the delicate art of letting go of grudges.
3. I’d discover that the human body is, quite frankly, gross. Yet, despite witnessing things that can’t be unseen, we would still desire intimacy.
4. Moments of perfection would emerge in the simplest ways, like sharing five minutes of silence together or hearing him say, “Wow, look at you,” after I stepped out of the shower, two kids later, feeling less than glamorous.
5. There would be a day when, at the end of a chaotic summer, we would drive away and feel so liberated that we could have kept going forever—though we ultimately returned.
6. We would intentionally say foolish, hurtful things, fully aware of what would push each other’s buttons.
7. We would share many secrets and realize that at our age, drinking games like “Have You Ever” are probably not a good idea.
8. There would be a morning when the sound of him brushing his teeth would nearly drive me to distraction. But I held back.
9. Saturdays would become a tricky balancing act—ideal for lazy lounging but also potential minefields of miscommunication regarding bacon or life insurance.
10. It would be completely acceptable to not want to spend every moment together on certain days.
11. We would occasionally lose sight of each other, especially when busy with parenting duties.
12. Overall, life would improve significantly—perhaps I’ve simply grown to tolerate his kitchen leadership.

A two-decade partnership endures countless storms. The true magic lies in the mornings that follow, where we blink awake and one of us lets out a loud fart, shaking the bed and waking our 3-year-old in the next room, who bursts into giggles. That’s marriage for you.

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In summary, 20 years of marriage brings a mix of challenges and beautiful moments, revealing the depth of connection that can only grow over time.