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I found myself contemplating the end of my marriage today. But before you worry, let me assure you that my husband and I are currently cozying up on the couch. However, this morning around 8:34 a.m., I was engulfed by a fiery rage. My husband had offered to drive our kids to school last night, a gesture I appreciated, but it quickly turned sour when he stood at the doorway huffing, puffing, and rolling his eyes as the kids took their sweet time finishing breakfast and getting ready. I couldn’t help but mutter under my breath that his attempts to help were more frustrating than supportive as he sped off.
After he dropped the kids off, we exchanged a heated string of texts, followed by a conciliatory phone call. We both agreed to continue extending grace to each other after a year filled with challenges. The pandemic has placed immense pressure on us as individuals and parents, and it’s taken a toll on our relationship.
Over our 16 years of marriage, we’ve faced many challenges: two advanced degrees, tackling student debt, and raising a high-needs child. We thought we were resilient before the pandemic, but looking back, we realize we underestimated how difficult it would be to be constantly together, maintain our romantic connection, and not let the stress of such an unpredictable crisis get the best of us.
I’ve noticed that many mothers in my practice share similar frustrations with their partners. We’re all eager for the pandemic to end, along with the heightened tensions that often accompany it. However, I believe we don’t have to wait for the world to improve to enhance our relationships.
Key Principles for Co-Parenting
From other resilient mothers who have navigated both good and bad times, I’ve gathered several key principles for co-parenting that can help prevent days like today from becoming routine.
- Forget the Fifty-Fifty Myth
The idea of an equal split in parenting responsibilities is often unrealistic. You may do more laundry while your partner handles the bulk of school drop-offs. The key is ensuring you’re not shouldering the majority of the burdens. - Share the Mental Load
Your partner cannot read your mind. It’s essential to sit down together and outline what needs to be done. Schedule regular family meetings to discuss responsibilities and ensure both partners are aware of each other’s burdens. - Divide Tasks Based on Practical Considerations
Consider who has the time and strengths for certain tasks. If you’re a new mom breastfeeding, you might handle feeding while your partner manages soothing the baby. If you’re not a new parent, find other ways to divide responsibilities. - Use Common Language
Communicate in a way that resonates with both of you. Whether you’re using business jargon or sports metaphors, find common ground in your discussions about household responsibilities. - Leverage Technology
Utilize shared calendars and apps to keep track of family activities and responsibilities. This shared knowledge fosters accountability and makes it easier to manage appointments and events. - Sometimes You Have to Ignore
You might need to overlook your partner’s eye rolls or sighs when delegating tasks. Accept that sharing the load might involve some discomfort at first. - Practice Grace with Each Other
Recognize that everyone carries stress into their relationships. Approach your partner with empathy and understanding to minimize conflict. - Take a Step Back
Avoid micromanaging your partner’s involvement in parenting. Empower them to take charge in their own way, which can help them feel more invested.
I often struggle with this balance in my own home. Inevitably, I sometimes feel my husband views his efforts as “helping” rather than equally co-parenting. However, we continue to strive for a partnership where gender doesn’t dictate responsibility.
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Summary
This article reflects on the challenges of maintaining a healthy marriage and co-parenting during the pandemic. The author shares personal experiences and practical strategies for effective partnership in parenting, emphasizing the importance of communication, dividing responsibilities, and extending grace to each other.
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