As the dreary winter stretches on, my mental state feels increasingly fragile. The familiar gloom of Minnesota’s never-ending cold and the impending April snowstorm weigh heavily on my mind. It’s that time of year when a host of mental health challenges—depression, anxiety, and seasonal affective disorder—come rushing in together.
In the chaos of motherhood, marriage, and my own mental health struggles, my thoughts often spiral out of control. This incessant mental chatter can be overwhelming, so I’ve had to adopt strategies to regain focus and redirect my thinking toward positive thoughts. And it’s crucial that I do this, not just for my well-being, but for my family’s too.
While my husband, Jake, has been a pillar of support, offering emotional stability and humor during my toughest times, I often find it perplexing how men seem to possess the ability to switch off their minds. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve caught him standing silently in the bathroom or sitting quietly in the car, staring blankly into space. What is going on in there? When asked, the answer is often a simple “nothing.” Their minds seem devoid of the chaotic thoughts that plague mine.
I recall a car ride a few years back when, after several minutes of silence, I asked Jake what he was thinking about. His response: “Pots.” Yes, pots for camping. For ten minutes, he mused about pots, while my own mind raced with a barrage of thoughts: “Why is the news so grim? Are we facing an apocalypse? Did I remember to take my medication? I haven’t showered in days; I’m so gross. Can we afford another root canal? Am I a good mother? God, why is there so much suffering in the world?”
The stark contrast between our thoughts was comical, and it sparked a fit of laughter between us. It was a moment that reminded me how essential humor is in navigating life’s absurdities. Laughter acts as a safety net, allowing me to see through the fog of negative thoughts that often cloud my mind.
To manage my mental clutter, I’ve started focusing intentionally on the positive. I write, I reflect on joyful family moments, and I redirect my thoughts toward gratitude—especially for my husband’s unconditional love. I think of my thoughts as a film reel playing on repeat; to change the narrative, I have to overwrite it with something new and uplifting.
Recently, while lying in bed feeling particularly anxious, I began listing things that puzzled me—thoughts that made no sense. This exercise shifted my perspective, allowing me to focus on the ridiculous rather than the worrisome. Here’s a sampling of what I came up with:
- Toe rings: What’s the point?
- The Kardashians: Enough already.
- Chopsticks: Why are they so hard to use?
- Musicals: Do we really need that much singing?
- Spray tans: No thanks.
- Columbus Day: Why still celebrate?
- Politics: Just no.
- Clowns: Why do they exist?
- Pants with slogans on the rear: Really?
I’m not alone in this struggle. I reached out to other women, and they shared their own bewildering observations. The responses ranged from judgmental people to the bizarre phenomenon of kids eating Tide Pods. It’s clear that we all have our quirks and questions, and sometimes, sharing these thoughts can be liberating.
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In summary, the whirlwind of thoughts that often consumes a woman’s mind can lead to overwhelming feelings. However, through humor, intentional thinking, and sharing our peculiarities, we can navigate the chaos more effectively. Embracing the absurdities of life can serve as a powerful tool for mental well-being.