Several years ago—about six or seven—I had another one of those moments where I was mistaken for someone else. This isn’t the first time I’ve faced such a situation, and I doubt it will be the last. I’m not quite sure if it’s my appearance, my demeanor, or something else entirely that causes this. Regardless, it’s a peculiar experience that has followed me throughout my adult life, starting when I turned 20.
Often, this phenomenon reveals itself when someone approaches me, greets me, and then suddenly realizes I’m not the person they thought I was. However, there have been more memorable encounters. One that stands out took place in a pub close to my old apartment. While waiting for a friend, a woman I had never met before sat down across from me and simply said, “Well?”
Taken aback, I asked, “Well, what?”
“What do you have to say for yourself?” she shot back, clearly irritated.
“I’m sorry,” I replied, “but I don’t know who you are.”
“Ha!” she laughed, shaking her head. “This is new!”
After I clarified that I wasn’t the person she believed me to be, she finally understood, and we both shared a laugh. Yet, the bewilderment in her eyes lingered—an eerie blend of confusion and curiosity.
The most baffling incident occurred when I ran into a friend I used to see frequently. She greeted me with her usual warmth and asked, “Did you make it to your meeting on Monday?” I responded that I hadn’t attended any meeting that day. She insisted I had, claiming she’d seen me on Oxford Street. Despite my protests that I hadn’t been in town that day, she remained convinced. In her mind, she had shared a five-minute conversation with someone who merely looked like me.
The most rational explanation might be that my friend was mistaken, but it felt too bizarre to dismiss so easily. There are other theories, but I try not to dwell on them too much.
The most dramatic incident of my doppelgänger experience happened while I was employed at a university bookstore. A particular customer would enter and simply stare at me, so much so that my colleagues noticed. They joked about him having a crush on me, but frankly, it made me uncomfortable. He would come in, buy random items, and never speak a word to me.
One night, while I was alone at the counter, he wandered in. After a while, he sheepishly approached me. “Hey,” he said.
“Hey.”
“I come in here a lot, right? You know why?”
I shook my head, unsure of where this was heading.
“To look at you.”
My heart raced. Where was this going? He seemed to be wrestling with powerful emotions, shaking his head and avoiding eye contact.
“No, no, it’s not like that,” he stammered. “I’m from Iraq. I grew up there.”
“Really?” I replied, still apprehensive.
“Yeah, with my older brother. He was a dentist, the Robin Hood of dentists! He treated the poor for free and charged the rich!”
We shared a laugh, but then his expression darkened. “One day, they came and took him. I never saw my brother again.”
He fixed his gaze on me. “You really look like him.”
I don’t remember what I said next—perhaps I awkwardly shook his hand and expressed my condolences. He smiled, tears welling in his eyes, and left without another word. My coworker, who had overheard everything, stood beside me in stunned silence as we watched him walk away. He never returned to the shop.
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In summary, I’ve had numerous encounters where people have mistaken me for someone else, leading to odd and sometimes touching situations. These experiences remind me of the unique connections we share and how our appearances can evoke memories and emotions in others.