A quick search on Instagram for #momporn reveals a humorous mix of content, from dads sporting Baby Bjorns to meticulously organized meal prep containers, or kids peacefully asleep in their beds. While society often assumes these are the things that excite mothers, the reality is quite different. Moms remain sexual beings after childbirth, with many actively seeking out pornography for their enjoyment. A recent survey by Scary Mommy found that 28 percent of nearly 500 mothers reported watching porn at least once a month. So what are they tuning into, and why?
Few have more insight into the world of adult films than Stormy Daniels. While she is now widely recognized for her political ties, Daniels has spent the last two decades in the adult film industry as a director, writer, producer, and actress, all while being a mother herself. Although she hasn’t explicitly focused on the porn-watching habits of moms, she acknowledges that women often enjoy sexual content more than most think. “Men and women consume sexual content at similar rates,” she shares, pointing out the societal stigma that often prevents open discussions about women’s porn consumption.
This stigma may arise from the discomfort many women, especially moms, feel towards porn that appears exploitative or coercive. “Historically, women have been led to believe that the performers in adult films are coerced or exploited,” Daniels explains. “But I think a mom breastfeeding a six-month-old shouldn’t feel shame about enjoying porn.”
Knowing that Daniels is in control of her work may help some viewers feel more at ease. “I think it eliminates that nagging doubt about whether the performer wants to be there,” she says. “Once that concern is off the table, viewers can relax and enjoy the content.”
For many moms, this ethical aspect influences their viewing choices. For instance, Amanda, a mother of two, notes her preference for ethical porn, stating, “I like feeling that the performers are respected and paid fairly. I’ve shifted to female-friendly sites like Bellesa and enjoy the NSFW section on Reddit, where ‘real’ people share their content.” Similarly, Laura, another mom, seeks out content created by women, queer, or trans individuals, as it aligns more with her values and experiences.
The Scary Mommy survey also revealed that 40 percent of mothers prefer lesbian or gay porn, while nine percent are drawn to BDSM and kink. Laura explains her distaste for mainstream porn, finding it often lacks a focus on female pleasure. “It sometimes feels more like a performance rather than an authentic experience,” she remarks.
So why do moms watch porn? The answer is simple: they are human beings with sexual desires. “Becoming a mom hasn’t changed my porn-watching habits, except that I’m more careful about clearing my browser history,” says Paige, another mom. Daniels argues that viewing porn can be particularly helpful for mothers, offering an escape and a way to reconnect with their sexuality, especially during the isolating early years of motherhood.
“Many women feel a sense of loneliness and may have a diminished sex drive after giving birth,” she notes. “Porn can help them rediscover their bodies and desires.” Daniels suggests that moms start by watching porn alone to gauge their interests without pressure. “What if you’re not turned on and your partner is next to you? It could create an awkward situation,” she adds.
For those new to porn, Daniels has some recommendations. She advises starting with films directed by women, as they typically focus on the aesthetic and narrative. “Women directors often pay attention to detail, making the experience more enjoyable for viewers accustomed to organizing their daily lives,” she explains. If unsure about where to start, she recommends softer, story-driven content like Wicked Passions, which aims for a more relatable and romantic feel compared to traditional adult films.
In summary, Stormy Daniels sheds light on the often-overlooked reality that moms enjoy watching porn just like anyone else. With the right approach and ethical considerations, it can be a healthy part of their sexual lives, providing enjoyment and a means to reconnect with their bodies post-childbirth.
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