Updated: July 27, 2016
Originally Published: Oct. 15, 2014
In my work on “The Guide to Everything You Need to Know” (Workman, new edition 2015), I gathered perspectives from countless women about the lessons they wish they had learned before entering their 20s and 30s. Here’s one poignant takeaway.
Name: Sarah Thompson
Age: 24
Profession: User Experience Designer
What do you wish you had known earlier?
I’ve come to realize that not every situation requires a response. Loving someone doesn’t always mean you’re both prepared, and learning to navigate loneliness without self-judgment is crucial.
Throughout your journey, you will encounter people who are genuinely wonderful, but you will also meet those who simply aren’t right for you. It’s perfectly acceptable to distance yourself from the latter, and it often takes courage to do so.
However, there are those rare individuals who will stand by you—those who accept you as you are, through all your highs and lows. If you haven’t crossed paths with them yet, hold on to hope; they are out there and will come into your life at the right time.
In the meantime, don’t settle and remember to stop saying sorry so much.
As Helen Rosner wisely reminded us, “You are not going to die alone and unemployed.”
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Summary:
Navigating your 20s can be complex, but understanding that not everything deserves a reaction can relieve some pressure. Embrace the courage to step away from unfulfilling relationships and remain hopeful for those who will accept you fully. Remember, don’t compromise your worth or over-apologize.